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Too much to forgive, new to group, looking for friends and support

Posted by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 1:11 PM
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Hi I'm new to the group and here is a bit about my situation.  Hubby and I have been together for 10 years married for 7.  The first 5 years were great.  Now I basically can't stand him.  He is a pathological liar.  He has lied to me sooooo many times about everything from small things to big things.  We've gone through a lot together.   There's nothing left.  I know we won't be together forever but I'm hanging in because I need to get some stuff in order.  I've got to have money because I'll need a good lawyer.  I don't really trust my daughter alone with him.  He's a porn addict and has a bad temper.  I want supervised visitation.  I don't think he'll fight me on it too hard because I know he won't want full custody because of how he is with his other kids.  He sees them maybe 2x a year.  Anyway I am so dreading what I am going to have to put my daughter through but I know she has to see the lack of love in our marriage.  We don't fight, there is just nothing there.  I think we both know it's over.  There has just been too many lies and things that have happened with the porn.  He is 12 years older and that has never bothered me til the last couple of years when I found out he was watching porn like the barely legal stuff.  Those girls are his oldest daughter age.  Disgusting.  He's just become so dirty old manish to me.  I'm going to need some friends to help me get through this!

by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 1:11 PM
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cbaab
by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 1:18 PM

I am sorry that you haev to go through this I am here for you if you need to talk just message me. :o)

CrunchyCarol
by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 1:20 PM

Ouch. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Good for you for being strong enough to leave. Don't forget to take some pictures/document what you are seeing (when he's not around, of course) and keep a record/journal. This will help you in court. Be strong.  (((hugs)))

brown.eyes.blue
by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 1:38 PM

I feel like I'm headed right where you are. It's a horrible feeling.

mamapicklemjp
by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 1:44 PM
I am so sorry! If you ever need someone to talk to you are welcome to message me.
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carebearlady
by on Jan. 4, 2011 at 2:58 PM

Thanks.  I really appreciate the words of encouragement.  It's so hard when you know you are going to have to put your child through divorce and all that change.  I truly feel like it will be better for her in the long run and I wish I could get it started, but I have to wait so I'm in a better postion to take care of my daughter.

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