This may be long... So anyway My SO (not married), his 2 kids, a child together, and I all moved to Georgia from Michigan last year due to job opportunities. I love this man to death and he is so great. He is awesome with our baby and with his kids, also he helps around the house and is totally sweet to me. He is everything I've always wanted in a man EXCEPT... He keeps things from me. He won't let me be involved in the finances which he really sucks at. I offered many times to help, but he doesn't want me seeing his bank statements. Secondly I found out that he has a friend in Michigan that sends him pain meds if he needs them and he was keeping it from me. I found out and told him that I support any decisions that he makes as long as it doesn't effect the family, I just want to know what goes on with him and that he can talk to me about anything. He agreed not to hide these things from me anymore. He was still texting daily with this "drug girl" from Michigan daily, but deleting her text messages. (I have access to our cell phone account and can see who he texts, but not able to read the actual conversation) I asked him about this and he swears that he isn't getting drugs from her anymore, but they are just friends. His explanation for deleting her texts was because it was habit from before when he was keeping his pain med needs from me and promised to stop being so sneaky acting. After checking the cell phone account I see that he completely stopped texting her, but I see many multi-media usages on the account. So tonight I took his phone and looked at his facebook since he doesn't log out and found that he has been sending her messages via facebook. I read them and didn't find anything worth getting upset about, just "hi how are you?" and "how's the weather" kind of stuff. I know for a fact that they are not having any type of romantic relationship and have no sexual feelings for each other. I don't understand what the big deal is. I already explained to him that I don't care about the pain meds, but why is he being so secretive? Why hide the posts and the bank info? We are suppose to be life partners and I feel like I can't trust him. I don't want to leave, I want to make this work but talking to him isn't making a change. What should I do?