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get to a point that you just hate your husband?

I don't even know where to start.  First I want to say thank you for not bashing me yet.  Let's start with a little background because I don't think I have ever posted in here about our marriage.  We are 5 years apart in age and were raised totally different.  I was a social butterfly and he was a farm slave.  We have been married 8 years come April 19th and have a 4 year old daughter.  We both work 1 full-time and 1 part-time job.  I work 12 hour night shifts at my main job and he works days. 

A couple weeks ago, I had all the dishes and the kitchen totally cleaned before I went to work on a Saturday eve.  He did all the cooking for him and dd on Sat eve, all day Sun, and then Mon eve (she was at daycare Mon).  Before I left for work on Mon, I asked him to do a load of dishes.  I came home Tues am and the stove, both sinks, and counters were covered in dishes and food.  I was off Tues and Wed but didn't do much because of a muscle injury.  Then on Thurs, I asked him to do dishes when I left for work again.  Come home Fri and they weren't touched.  We were gone Fri eve into Sat afternoon.  I worked 12 hour night shifts Sat, Sun, Mon, and Tues.  He still didn't do dishes.  And then on Sun, he only let me have 3 hours of sleep during the day before he woke me even though I didn't have to return to work for a while. 

We had to get a new van last month because ours was totalled.  The in-transits were set to expire on Mon.  He was gonna take care of it last Fri, then Mon, then tues.  Well, I took the papers and went to the courthouse, but I didn't have the title, so now we have to pay a penalty because it is over 30 days.  I drive 75 miles round trip to work.  I called him and told him that I had to work and they wouldn't let me license it and he would have to take me to work.  He told me just to drive it because no one would notice.......which escaladed into a huge fight.

These are just the latest things bugging me.  He opened his own personal checking account last year so now we have seperate accounts and no access to each others money.  He pays his bills, I pay mine, plus anything dd needs.  And now I worry that he isn't actually feeding dd and taking care of her while I am at work.  I could care less about even being in the same house as him letting alone sleeping with him.  He totally turns me off.  And he is chewing again even though I despise it and won't clean up his spit bottles/cans.

by on Feb. 8, 2011 at 5:55 PM
Replies (21-29):
by Bella on Feb. 9, 2011 at 1:05 AM
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by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 1:08 AM

many times over the 5 yrs we have been together lol

by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 1:23 AM

oh yes PLENTY OF TIMES!  BUT it doesnt last because he knows how to make me forget but sometimes it takes AWHILE!

by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 1:26 AM

I did with my exhusband.....  not with DH though...  He annoys me at times, but I never hate him

by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 2:22 AM

 bump update

by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 3:10 AM
Yes but im mobile so im kinda bumping this so i can come back.
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by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 3:17 AM
yes i have hated him before. and when it makes its way around to love again its just that much better! i hope everything turns out ok for you guys.. just dont give up! love is always worth a good fight : )
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by Michele on Feb. 9, 2011 at 7:01 AM

Yep, it ebbs and it flows

by on Feb. 9, 2011 at 7:09 AM

Right now. He left me when I freaked out the other day when he told me he would be one place and wasn't there. I have trust issues with him because he cheated on me and I was about to address them in counseling. He still decided to leave and it seems like he's not even interested in talking to me. It pisses me off because he turns it around on me. It's HIS fault that I have these issues!

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