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no sex anymore

Posted by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 9:26 PM
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I have been with my husband for five years now and his sex drive is gone. We have talked about it
Well let's say I have. I'm about at my wits end with this I'm a very sexual person and he new that
When we got married. I just don't know what to do about it. I feel like I am living with a roommate
Any ideas out there?

Thanks NH
by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 9:26 PM
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lfrrll5
by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 9:29 PM

if you figure it out let me know cause I have the same problem. He is still hugging and cuddling just no sex drive

tihone77
by on Mar. 2, 2011 at 9:31 PM

Has he talked to his doctor about it?  I've heard there are certain medical conditions that can have that effect.

MixedCooke
by Silver Member on Mar. 3, 2011 at 1:29 AM

spike his drink with Viagra!  LOL  I am at that road as well, although i always had to initiate!  Part of the problem is me because I have some resentment built up and maybe he has some too.

mellosmom24
by on Mar. 3, 2011 at 1:48 AM

dag i feel bad we are experiencing the same thing but im the one that lost my sex drive. never really had one but now with a six month old im really never in the mood. but im trying. sometimes its his fault cause if i feel like im getting no help then i figure why should i help you out when you cant help me out? ya know...

mellosmom24
by on Mar. 3, 2011 at 1:51 AM

you seem spicy any ideas how i can surprise him or spice up our one year anniversary coming soon.....my friends call me a prude..lol maybe i am.

dmm2702
by on Mar. 3, 2011 at 9:09 AM

try starting out with a massage or buy some toys for both of you.  Maybe getting some toys will help spice things up.

kattrask
by on Mar. 3, 2011 at 9:24 AM

Yes that worked for us

Quoting dmm2702:

try starting out with a massage or buy some toys for both of you.  Maybe getting some toys will help spice things up.


freshmom88
by on Mar. 3, 2011 at 9:28 AM
i always heard men's sex drive reaches it's peak between age 18-21 and women dont reach theirs until 32 or something. My dh is also one of those guys who can go without it and not care. If u think it's a real problem i'd try to get him to see a doc. Is he stressed? That could be the problem. good luck!
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raqueljoan
by on Mar. 3, 2011 at 10:39 AM

I'm there, too.  It's difficult.  I don't know what to do, either.  Mine just seems to be always stressed about work.  It leaves me feeling unattractive.  I've tried talking to him, but it falls on deaf ears.  I've tried letting him know how great the sex was when we do have it, and he seem to like the praise and he is a bit more interested in the short term.  Maybe that will work?

RutterMama
by on Mar. 3, 2011 at 11:19 AM
My hubby is the opposite. Maybe depression?
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