So how do you get past resentment? I've been married almost 3 years, in this realtionship for close to 11. We've had some VERY rocky times...mostly due to addisctions, bi-polor, and just plain a**hole behavior. Somehow through it all I've chosen to stick around and I truly do want to continue. In the past 6 months he's made some life changes (sobor first & foremost) and for the most part things seem to be better. But we still fight, a lot. I think most of it stems from me not really being able to get past the past. So I ask...how do you get "over it"?