On Sex, could use some positive encouraging advice here.
So I'm 25, I will be 26 this May. I have been with hubs since I was 14. I love him to death. I have ALWAYS more than enjoyed sex with him. Well, until "recently" that is.
We got pregnant with our first son last year (December 2009) and towards the end of my pregnancy (We had our son September 2010) I started to become very disinterested in sex. Mainly because of how HUGE I was. My doc assured me that it's common in late pregnancy, not to worry, as soon as my 6 weeks of pp were up, I would be enjoying sex again.
No, not true. I had an episiotomy at my birth. I SWEAR it's not the same. Something is wrong down there. I think the doc might have added one too many stitches? Is that possible? I'm telling you since then it has not felt right, and I have not enjoyed sex at all.
I again asked my doc about this. He said it's sometimes normal. Sometimes new mothers, especially breast feeding mothers, tend to lack an interest in sex for up to a year after birth. My son is only 6 months old; barely.
I had been on the depo shot until recently when hubs and I decided to TTC for baby number 2. I didn't like the side affects to begin with. Like the massive amount of hair loss. =( In any case, the doc told me that again that could also play into the whole lack of interest in sex.
I don't know what my deal is. I miss having sex with my hubby. I just feel so tired, so exhausted at the end of the day, or when I finally get some alone time with my hubs that I have no interest in having sex with him. Not to mention it's still pretty painful to have sex with him.
So do ya'll have any advice? I want to not only have sex with my hubby, but I want to enjoy it again! I miss being so intimate with my hubby, and I'm sure he misses it with me. Well, I know he does, he's always so pawsy.
Oh, the other issue is, he is a booby man. BUT< since I am breast feeding, I'd rather him NOT touch my breasts. A) They hurt, especially when they are filled with milk. B) I am just a little werided out by the fact, that they are currently used to feed our son. C) I've really never been a boob person, really never liked my boobs touched and what not. =(
I don't want my husband to end up finding sex else where, and I don't want to be sexless. How can I make sex happen and better? I'm sure the amount of stress we've had lately hasn't helped either. =(
Thanks for the advice and help. Please, I could use positive encouraging advice.