Better Communication Challenge Day 3: Talking Tip--Remove This Word from Your Vocabulary!
Do you ALWAYS say ALWAYS? Raise your hand if phrases like this have come out of your mouth recently: You always forget to do that! You always are late! You never listen to me!
Try this Talking Tip today. Your activity for May 4 is: Don't Generalize. When you're talking to your partner about something he does that you don't like, avoid using words like always and never. Point to specific instances instead. If you believe that your partner ALWAYS does something, you're likely to act a lot angrier than you would if you were just focused on this one particular instance. Plus, it might make your partner feel like you're exaggerating the problem, making him less likely to take your criticism seriously.
Tell us how you can cut out generalizations like this in the replies below!
Plus, if you missed yesterday's conversation starter, you can find it here.