Better Communication Day 19: Time for Some Housework!
Among all the things couples fight about, housework is one of the most common. In fact, one marriage expert calls it the #3 fight, after money and children. Are the "chore wars" common in your household?
Your activity for May 20 is: Talk About Housework. Today, have an honest conversation about housework in your home: how much you do, what you think you should be doing, what drives you crazy, what you wish he did more of, etc. If you need some questions to get the conversation started, you can try asking each other some of these:
- What chores do I do that you most appreciate?
- What is your least favorite chore?
- How can you help me with certain tasks more often?
- How can we work together to decrease our overall household chore burden?
We also recommend this suggestion from Dr. Howard Markman, author of "Fighting for Your Marriage": Choose one specific time each week to argue about housework, and ONLY talk about it then. That way, it doesn't become a constant fight. You can read more of Dr. Markman's advice in this article.
How can you change the chore wars in your house? Tell us in the replies below!
Plus, if you missed yesterday's Remember When game, you can find it here.