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Hate Feeling 2nd Priority to his Hobby

Posted by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 2:15 PM
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I've been married to my hs sweetheart for 5 1/2 yrs. I love my husband very much. He's a good man and works hard for our family. He is a die hard hunter (deer). He lives and breathe's it so much I feel like he thinks about it more than he does me or us. We've had the discussions about it and he says he's sorry but nothing changes. He'll say he's really busy at work and won't get any txt from him but then see on our email where money has been sent from paypal for payment on archery and hunting things off his archery site he goes on. Ohhhh, ok, no time for your wife but manage to find time to read forums/shop on your archery site. Just really hurts and makes me feel lower priority. I feel like I have to compete with his hobby for his time and attention. :( When he's home, every minute be gets he has it on tv too. :(
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chrishawn416
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 2:17 PM
Anyone else have a spouse with an ocd hobby? If so, how does it affect you if any and what do you do about it if anything.
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EireLass
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 2:21 PM

Why not take an interest in it? 

i.heart.myboys
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 2:28 PM
I agree completely with this. I say this from experience. My husband is a die hard football fan and sometimes it gets on my nervse at first because he would live, breath and just do anything football. i hated it so much. After our fight back last year when our son was born and the stress we were going through with him. I decided to live and let live. I was so sick of fighting so what am I going to do? Get a jersey and scream my ass off with him when it comes to his football? Why because he loves it so much! Not as much as me I know this but enough for it to take a big portion of his life up and why not just join?

Quoting EireLass:

Why not take an interest in it? 

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Daisyducc
by Bronze Member on Aug. 17, 2011 at 2:28 PM
That can be hard. DH often tells me how "busy" he was, then tells me about something he read online, a convo he had with his friend, etc. I get it. Hang in there.
findingserenity
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 2:33 PM
my husband has stopped talking to me the day we got married.
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i.heart.myboys
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 2:41 PM
I'm so sorry that you are going through that. I bet it's very hurtful. Have you talked to your DH about it?

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my husband has stopped talking to me the day we got married.
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roxanna79
by Bronze Member on Aug. 17, 2011 at 3:45 PM
I am so sorry for you. I feel 2nd to mines "hobby" too except his is bs. He sayd porn is his hobby. Now that is something to come 2nd to. We have talked and nothing changes either. I don't even get the sorry tho :(
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aliyanez
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 3:58 PM
I went through this when we first got married, now I just join in and have fun with it.
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chrishawn416
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 4:58 PM
I've talked about doing it too but it's his guy time with his dad and son. He says he'd like that but it's not went any further than that. You can't just out in woods to hunt in the middle of winter with jeans and a sweater..lol No interest seems to be there to look for me hunting stuff..clothes, bow etc. And to be quit honest I don't think I could kill a deer. I've even offered to video tape it. He said you would, that would be awesome. But has never asked me to go and tape it. :(
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chrishawn416
by on Aug. 17, 2011 at 5:02 PM
I just feel I talk in circles. I'm tired of feeling jealous and feeling like I have to compete. I am about ready to quit talking and whatever he does, he does. It's a constant fight for attention and time and I'm cut deep by it.
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