Why is it that there is always at least one female friend who urges me to leave my husband when I complain about his wrong doings? I know my husband isn't perfect. He makes mistakes and sometimes pisses me the duck off. But I VOWED to love him in the worst of times. Sometimes I have to nag him, push him, remind him, challenge him. Sometimes I get tired if doing these things and I vent a little to my friends. Someone always comes back with "you deserve better. You should get out now while you still can." Whats that supposed to mean anyways? While I still can? I'm married to him. Lol. Theres no turning back now. And people are worried about gays ruining the sanctity of the holy union. Its like they think you should break up a family if the other person makes you feel anything but happy go lucky all the time. I'm sure any of you know as well as me that marriage is WORK! That there are times you want to leave, times you get so mad you could hurt something... But marriage is working thru those times TOGETHER! I don't know how to end this vent so....
Its not all if my friends, its a couple of them inparticular. And I can gaurantee that is not all bad stuff they hear about the hubbz. I praise him often. And these friends are in seemingly healthy relationships themselves.
About taking my problems to a professional, these "problems" are not serious enough to pay a professional for. Lol. Besides, if I can't complain/vent to my friends about everything then what good are they?
I expect my friends to be honest with me. I don't look for advise, I just want to vent. But when friends come to me about silly things their SO does that just irks them, I don't immediately start in on the bashing! Usually what I say is "yeah, I hate it when dh does that too." Or tell them that, yes, I understand why shes upset about it, but it isn't a serious matter.
on Jan. 7, 2012 at 7:10 PM