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How to be a good wife !?

Posted by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 1:40 PM
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I found this article on the web, I thought I would share it . What do you think about it ? Agree ? Disagree?

Here are some of the Qualities a man looks in his wife.

1) Be pleasant: It is said that 'we need to treat others the way we want ourselves to be treated’. Never be rude to our husband, family and friends. Be warm, kind, positive, understanding and friendly. Work to be pleasant toward your husband. Don’t be one of those people who make everyone around feel bad just because they have had a hard day. Welcome your husband with a smile when he comes home instead of a sour face. A good wife honors her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance. Listen to him talk about his day especially if it was a difficult one. If you don't like how you partner treats you, take a minute to notice how you treat your partner and correct your behavior.

2) Treat your Husband with Respect: If you expect respect from others we need to treat others with respect too. Haven’t we all heard ‘Give respect and take respect’. Respect can be reflected in the way one talks and behaves. Always speak in a loving way and refrain from speaking in a harsh manner. A good wife respects her hubby and she never chooses to belittle, strike, humiliate or otherwise harm him in private nor in public. It is better to watch what you say and think before speaking as it is not possible to take back the words once they are said. A good wife will treat her man with respect in front of others and at home.

3) Communicate: Communication is key to a good and solid marriage. Do not hide things from your husband or keep secrets after marriage. Be honest to him. Find time to sit and talk with your husband on a daily basis even if it is for only half an hour. If you let things bottle up and feel that you cannot share with your husband anything then your marriage is in trouble. Be a good listener when your husband is talking. You may have a dozen important things to tell him but allow him to talk first. Don't greet him with complaints and problems the moment he comes back from work. Good Communication also helps to build trust and strengthen your relationship. After marriage the wife and husband are a team or partners. Do not take any major decisions about the family without consulting with husband. Fights or problems may happen in between the two but do not let the world know about it rather solve it between yourselves. The fight you had last week over shopping or whatever is over and done with. So move on with it and stop rehashing old stuff and reminding him of his faults. Do not resort to name calling, hitting, spitting, breaking dishes or anything else when you lose your temper. If you do he may actually start to fall out of love with you and you could lose him all together.

4) Be Supportive: A husband expects wife’s support and understanding especially in times of troubles. A good wife loves her hubby through his successes and failures and provides reassurance when he's feeling down. She is a nurturer and an equal partner in the marriage. Support your husband in all stages of his career and life. Do not belittle your man or hurt his ego. It is often heard saying that ‘a wife can make a man or break a man’. There’s no quicker way to build resentment in your man than to criticize him or belittle him especially in front of others. Be proud of him on his accomplishments and genuinely complement him. If you do this you can expect your husband to behave with you in the same manner and also respect you more for your support and thoughtfulness. When you don’t agree with him respectfully let him know you don’t agree.

5) Do not nag: No man would like a nagging wife. If you want to get your own way ask him nicely. Many wives think that is the only way to get her husband to do things is by nagging. But the truth is that your nagging can create unwanted rift or can make things worse between the two of you. Your husband is a grown man with his own thoughts and desires. Just because you think he should be doing something particular doesn't mean he has to do it.

6) Give him his space: As a wife you need to understand that your husband has a life other than you also. He has his family, friends and colleagues who too are part of his life. He also may have some hobbies or passions he is involved in. Don’t expect his undivided attention. Don’t stop him if he wants to go out and hang out with his friends sometimes or engage in a hobby or sport that he likes. An interfering wife can sometimes be too irritating.

7) Keep him happy in Bed: Sexual intimacy is one of the most essential things in any marriage. Please your man in bed. If you cannot keep your man happy in Bed he would go where he can get it. After all, a Man is a man!

8) Plan Surprises: Men like surprises too. It can be anything like organizing his birthday party without him knowing about it or planning a special night of passion by playing a seductress. Your surprises do not have to be elaborate and can be as simple as making him his favorite snack or any of his favorite dishes once in a while even if you would rather eat something else.

9) Express your love and appreciation often: Men likes praises and appreciation. Make the best of your time together. Men like to hear the words ‘I love you’ too. Also join him in activities that he's interested in even though you would have preferred to do something else. Give him a thoughtful gift once in a while. Make it a point never to forget the special days in his life. Pamper him very often, especially when he is at home. You can even cook for him or give him a good massage. Making him dependent on you by doing his chores when he is at home is not a bad idea. Let him miss you and think about you when you are not around. These gestures won’t go unnoticed and it may even inspire him to do something nice for you. Don't withhold affection.

10) Honesty, Loyalty and Dedication: A good wife would be honest, loyal and dedicated to her husband. Marriage is a life long commitment and the vows you have taken at the time of marriage should be kept in all conditions.

11) Prepare yourself: A good wife honors her hubby by keeping a pleasant tone in her voice, a happy smile on her face and a neat and clean appearance. Take special care about your appearance and everyday. Include exercises or yoga in your daily routine. Be hygienic. Some woman feel that once they are married why they should dress up or take care of their appearance. A man likes his wife to smell good. If you are unhealthy or not presentable your man may cheat you behind your back.

12) Prepare the House: Maintain a clean house all the time. Clear away the clutter and spend time decorating the house. Apart from this be wise with money and take all the responsibilities of a wife seriously without complaining.

I am sure any man would be happy to get a wife with all these qualities. Have I left anything? Please feel free to add through comments.


You can find the entire article HERE at http://anamikas.hubpages.com/hub/How-to-be-a-good-wife-to-your-husband-qualities





by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 1:40 PM
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sew4fun
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 1:43 PM
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I agree with most everything except # 11, while I agree with most of what #11 says I do not feel that if you do not work out your husband is going to cheat. If he is going to cheat he just is . Granted there are things you can to do to make the possibility less likely , and I hope that is what they are getting at here.

mommas3cubs
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 1:44 PM

I agree with this post. 

sew4fun
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 1:47 PM

The more I think about this the more I want to add LOL . On #11 I do agree that a wife AND a husband should take care of themselves not only for themselves but for their spouse but I do not feel you have to go to "Yoga" class to do that .

ConnorMom228
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 1:49 PM
I can agree, but it goes both ways. Men need to respect their wives and appreciate all that we do for them.
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sew4fun
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 1:51 PM

Yes ma'am ! I just posted "how to be a good husband" LOL .. It does go both ways and I do agree that A good husband makes a good wife and a good wife makes a good husband .

Quoting ConnorMom228:

I can agree, but it goes both ways. Men need to respect their wives and appreciate all that we do for them.






HopefulMommy89
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 2:01 PM
While these are mostly good points, it sounds like its from a 1950s home ec textbook, when women were told to be nothing more than barefoot & pregnant in the kitchen, and be at their husband's beckon call.
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amanda_mom89
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 2:04 PM
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I felt the exact same way!
I mostly agreed with it but it just rubbed me the wrong way.

I don't agree with the clean house one. I keep a clean kitchen and clean bathroom but as far as clutter here or there DH and I don't worry about it. We both work a lot so when we're home we spend our time playing in the floor with our girls. :)


Quoting HopefulMommy89:

While these are mostly good points, it sounds like its from a 1950s home ec textbook, when women were told to be nothing more than barefoot & pregnant in the kitchen, and be at their husband's beckon call.

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sew4fun
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 2:04 PM
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I respect your opion but I just do not see it . This to me is more about giving what you want to get .

Quoting HopefulMommy89:

While these are mostly good points, it sounds like its from a 1950s home ec textbook, when women were told to be nothing more than barefoot & pregnant in the kitchen, and be at their husband's beckon call.






sew4fun
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 2:08 PM

HERE is the 1950's version I belive you are speaking of ( or at least one similar)http://www.barricksinsurance.com/GoodHousekeeping.html

An Actual 1955 Good Housekeeping article.

twinsies041
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 2:10 PM
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