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Are Sex Cams Cheating?

Posted by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 10:28 PM
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I am a marriage counselor  and I came across something today in a session that I thought would be good for this group.  The wife caught the husband on a sex webcam website. On these sites women put on shows for guys who pay for their services. Basically an online peep show.

Anyway the wife views this as cheating and the husband doesn't. The husband says it isn't cheating because he never had any physical contact with this person. Her argument is it is like having sex with a prostitute because he is paying for it. He responded with its just like paying for porn.

So is this cheating?

by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 10:28 PM
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BonitaM
by Ruby Member on Jan. 15, 2012 at 10:34 PM

To me it's not cheating but it's not acceptable either.  DH may have a lot of porn but if he starts paying for it there will be problems.

mrssummerlin
by Bronze Member on Jan. 15, 2012 at 10:35 PM
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I wouldn't consider it cheating.
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XoXomommaXoXo
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 10:37 PM
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I just talked to my husband and he said it's cheating. Porn has actors and web cam has real people. They see/talk to you.
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RheeRhee
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 10:38 PM
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maybe not in the physical sense but emotionally i would say yes since in many cases the viewer communicates with the webcam girl durring the show like they're on a chatroom. I'd also wonder why I'm not good enough for  him that he feels the need to spend OUR money for virtual sex with someone else...

cloversmom808
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 10:39 PM
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i view it as cheating only because its live.. porn is a video their not looking at the other person masterbating no other woman saying yeah baby you like that type of stuff. 

PEEK05
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 10:39 PM

This is how I feel.

Quoting XoXomommaXoXo:

I just talked to my husband and he said it's cheating. Porn has actors and web cam has real people. They see/talk to you.



Mamaof3and1tobe
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 10:39 PM
In a way he is right. I wouldn't considering it cheating but my fiance would.
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ShyJen
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 10:40 PM
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 My husband has been looking at online webcam porn sites for years. I never considered it cheating. I dont really care, he says its entertaining watching what other guys say to the girls on webcam.

ColorMeCrazy
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 10:40 PM
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I think it is. You're 1 on 1, you're talking to them and they're talking to you. You're paying a stranger to have cyber sex with you. You're giving a woman money and telling her what to do and she's doing it while watching you masturbate...or whatever. Not okay in my marriage.

xRockaBrittanyx
by on Jan. 15, 2012 at 10:42 PM

For us, it definitely would be. My husband and I believe that anything like that is cheating. If he were to go to a strip club without me, watch porn without me, whatever, it's cheating. And vice versa.

So is flirting, and emotional or online affairs, and the good ol' physical affair, which includes touching in any sexual manner.

Maybe to some it seems a little strict, but we both feel the same about it so it isn't strict to us. It just is.

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