36wks pregnant with Dad AWOL and hitting the bars

[BabyGreyson]

What would you do? Is this normal behavior for a first time dad? He says he's scared about having a baby and says he doesn't know if he could love her like I already do. Very confused!!! Help!!!

[rowansmum]

He's being incredibly selfish. Is this his first? Are you two together? I'd cut him loose for a bit. You need to prepare for baby not deal with this.

[Gmgej]

No in my opinion it is not normal it is childish, and hurtful and an excuse to be away from responsibility. Take lead and tell him to man up, this isn't what you signed up for, and next time he goes his bags wil be packed. If he goes pack his clothes and put them outside. Don't make it easy anymore, or you will have a pattern forever. He will only treat you as you allow him to.

[Pandi653]

I agree with this. Only you can decide what you're willing to settle for. Good luck mama

Quoting Gmgej:

No in my opinion it is not normal it is childish, and hurtful and an excuse to be away from responsibility. Take lead and tell him to man up, this isn't what you signed up for, and next time he goes his bags wil be packed. If he goes pack his clothes and put them outside. Don't make it easy anymore, or you will have a pattern forever. He will only treat you as you allow him to.

[Yellblue]

I think ladies are being to harsh on the guy he didn't say he doesn't want the baby he just said he's afraid which is normal. I mean as much as we the pregnant ones we need to b considerate of the other party its also new to him best u can do is b supportive of each other rather judging each others emotions

[ObiRenKenobi.]

Quoting Yellblue:

I think ladies are being to harsh on the guy he didn't say he doesn't want the baby he just said he's afraid which is normal. I mean as much as we the pregnant ones we need to b considerate of the other party its also new to him best u can do is b supportive of each other rather judging each others emotions

Consider me convicted.  You are absolutely right..

[vwd_johnson]

All I know is my ex was exactly like this. He was in the military when I was pregnant. He kept doing things & getting introuble. Then they forced him to live on base & he would sneak away. He just constantly wanted to go out to the bars ! He kept saying he was nervous & wanted to do it while he could... He was also "doing" other things if you catch my drift !

He never grew up. He met his son once when born to sign the birth certificate... & that's been it. BUT that was my case... Just make sure you have a talk with him & see exactly where he is at, it's normal to be nervous.

Goodluck.

[AnGLInterrupted]

Men sometimes flip out at the prospect of a little bundle of joy..  but him going AWOL and going bar hopping is unacceptable.  If he's having that much of a hard time with it, I recommend he seek counseling, not Samuel Adams [or whatever he prefers].

[shajdinyak]

Immature. ..how old?

[rowansmum]

Um ... Ok? He's going out to bars and leaving her to worry about everything baby and now making her worry about him and maybe money too? Ya, lets cut him some slack ... That makes perfect sense ...

Quoting Yellblue:

I think ladies are being to harsh on the guy he didn't say he doesn't want the baby he just said he's afraid which is normal. I mean as much as we the pregnant ones we need to b considerate of the other party its also new to him best u can do is b supportive of each other rather judging each others emotions

[biancalina20]

Is it his first? Although its a tad immature some men dont "fall in love" until they see the baby for the first time. Its not THAT unusual.