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SERIOUSLY..... (WARNING IM IRATE IN THIS )

Posted by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 12:58 AM
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SO about 10 min ago...i clicked on the View history button on our computer so i could quickly find the post that i was reading earlier since i didnt get to finish reading i and responding. but instead i found my husband was looking at SPankwire. HE has a FLIPPING P*SSED!! Not only does he have an account, but he has been PAYING FOR THESE SHOWS OR WHATEVER SINCE 2010. AND I AM JUST NOW FINDING OUT ABOUT THEM. I THEN FIND THAT HE WAS LOOKING FOR MISTRESSES IN ARIZONA (WHERE WE LIVE) IM NOT ONLY P*SSED ABOUT FINDING THESE I AM PISSED BECAUSE I HAVE BEEN TRYING TO SPICE IT UP SOME. just yesterday i tried to be with him and he tole me that he was DRAINED!!! seriously it had been 5 days.. WTH can you be "drained" after not having any for 5 days?!?!?!?!!?!?!?!?!!?!?!  he says he loves me but yet this is what he is doing behind my back. he then complains about money, but then he is spending money on this CRAP!! HELLO........i want to confront him, but at the same time i cant because then he will be like WTH were you looking threw my HISTORY for and all this BS!! the MOre F*d Up thing is he paid for A SESSION TODAY!! while i was home...NO FN Wonder he was sooooo desperate to have me take my DS to the park!! UGH.....im soooo LIVID i cant even think!!! i have been crying and crap...idk what to do. i probably wont sleep well tonight and i have to get up at 6 am and i have FIL who app is making me clean all day while he sits on his BEHIND!!! (thats another story)


*sorry needed to vent*

by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 12:58 AM
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jvd1709
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 1:05 AM

damn that sucks i dont tolerate it from my man either. i knew he watched porn in the beginning of our relationship but i told him to stop cause i didnt appreicate him looking at other women if he LOVES me so much. He claimed to have stopped but just a few months ago i found out that he was with his friends in college and they all got together and watched it. i got INFURIATED you have no idea. I confronted him and it led to a fight but honestly i would have continued fighting if i wasnt pregnant cause he shouldnt be looking at that stuff, we've been together over 3 years and we have a daughter on the way. i want alittle more respect honestly. Now idk if hes still doing it but i fear that he is. We barely have sex anymore like we used to. Hes always too tired or just not in the mood :/ sucks.

Cheribomb
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 1:10 AM
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I don't mind porn at all but looking for a mistress is way out of line. I would be livid!
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meglynn0919
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 1:13 AM
We kind of slacked off in the sex department last year and my only goal for the new year was to be better in that department.....now he uses im drained, i toldhim i have neverknown any singleman complain about to much.

Quoting jvd1709:

damn that sucks i dont tolerate it from my man either. i knew he watched porn in the beginning of our relationship but i told him to stop cause i didnt appreicate him looking at other women if he LOVES me so much. He claimed to have stopped but just a few months ago i found out that he was with his friends in college and they all got together and watched it. i got INFURIATED you have no idea. I confronted him and it led to a fight but honestly i would have continued fighting if i wasnt pregnant cause he shouldnt be looking at that stuff, we've been together over 3 years and we have a daughter on the way. i want alittle more respect honestly. Now idk if hes still doing it but i fear that he is. We barely have sex anymore like we used to. Hes always too tired or just not in the mood :/ sucks.

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meglynn0919
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 1:14 AM
I dont care bout the lookingbut paying for it, i think that topped it off. ND THE MISTRESS WAS the icingg on the cake

Quoting Cheribomb:

I don't mind porn at all but looking for a mistress is way out of line. I would be livid!
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jvd1709
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 1:15 AM

i really cant stand when my man uses that excuse. YEAH i understand that he has insomnia but he doesnt work right now and he plays video games when hes not focusing on me so...honestly i dont buy that too tired thing. Its been happening for quite some time now and i always worry its cause hes watching that stuff and taking care of himself.

Quoting meglynn0919:

We kind of slacked off in the sex department last year and my only goal for the new year was to be better in that department.....now he uses im drained, i toldhim i have neverknown any singleman complain about to much.

Quoting jvd1709:

damn that sucks i dont tolerate it from my man either. i knew he watched porn in the beginning of our relationship but i told him to stop cause i didnt appreicate him looking at other women if he LOVES me so much. He claimed to have stopped but just a few months ago i found out that he was with his friends in college and they all got together and watched it. i got INFURIATED you have no idea. I confronted him and it led to a fight but honestly i would have continued fighting if i wasnt pregnant cause he shouldnt be looking at that stuff, we've been together over 3 years and we have a daughter on the way. i want alittle more respect honestly. Now idk if hes still doing it but i fear that he is. We barely have sex anymore like we used to. Hes always too tired or just not in the mood :/ sucks.


mommyjenn84
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 1:18 AM
I have no problem with porn what so ever.. But your husband crossed so many lines I dont even know where to begin.
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geronima2003
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 1:20 AM
Good luck, it's a hard situation. I would also be devastated.
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geekmommy84
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 1:21 AM
This, i say collect evidence and maybe check the infidelity laws in your state. You dont need that mind game in your life..

Quoting Cheribomb:

I don't mind porn at all but looking for a mistress is way out of line. I would be livid!
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meglynn0919
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 1:23 AM
He works over night and he has to stay homewith the kids on the days that i work, but he ugh i cant even describe how i really feel
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xomrsweaver
by on Feb. 8, 2012 at 1:23 AM

a lot of women are ok with porn, i on the otherhand totally am against it too. I'm sorry you have to deal with that shit....I'd would most likely beat my husband's ass if he pulled this. 

But since I'm sure you wont leave him over it, just watch out if he starts going to webcam sites. It's like legit cheating. I started doing it a while ago, and I'm pretty non nude, but the shit married men pay for. Some guy told me how beautiful I was, and wanted to just watch me dance...not even naked. But he was still getting off to me. Then he goes on to saying how he just found the love of his life and she's pregnant with twins. I have gotten so many married men and every single time..i want to find out these guys numbers and call their wifes to let them know the kind of stuff there doing and paying for when there alone. It genuinely pisses me off. 

But anyways...if he is genuinely looking for someone else to mess around with...i suggest you not only confront his ass, try to catch him(i've helped a lot of people catch their s/o cheating..if you wanted help) and then leave. Men like this don't change. They just take more precautions to hide stuff.

 

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