For my birthday, hubby decided to take me out to a movie, lunch and got a sitter lined up. I told him I was nervous about the sitter since I had only met her once before. And that I didn't want to go to a movie. I wanted to do something else. I don't like going to the movies .... they cost too much and it's just too loud for me.
My thought was that it was my B-day, we should do what I wanted. When it's his B-day, we can do what he wants.
But some one told me I was a horrible wife and that he would end up leaving me if I kept acting this way.
We ended up using his sitter and went to lunch and a local museum.
Does this make me an unappreciative wife or not ?
I wouldnt say it makes you unappreciative, but I think it is sweet he arranged everything so you didnt have to worry about it.
If you called him an idiot for thinking of going to a movie that he knows you don't like anyway then yes that is unappreciative but if you kindly explained that you don't like movies and would prefer to goto a museum then no. It was your bday so why not do what you want as long as you handle with care KWIM
No it does not. Maybe you should both decide to ask the other what they would like to do for there birthday or just sit down before the big day and say what you expect or what you would like to do. That way someone can plan a special day but they do what you want. If it is your birthday someone should plan the day around what you like to do in my opinion. Unless you told him to surprise you then you get what you asked for LoL!! If he were to leave you for that he has issues.
I wouldn't say unappreciative. Based on this post alone. I would say it's more likely a case of not really understanding your husband's way of showing love and appreciation towards you. Everyone shows and interprets love, apprectiation, respect (and so on) differently. Lots of issues pop up in relationships simply because of not really understanding how each other shows and interprets those things. It's really important for life partners to really understand and accept how one another shows/interprets love, appreciation, admiration, respect and so on. I think understanding and accepting the thoughts and feelings behind a partner's action is far more important than the action all alone. If you really understand and accept what a partner is trying to demonstrate and express through an action, it makes the action far more meaningful.
I don't think it's wrong to want to do what YOU want to do on YOUR birthday at all. I do think it's sweet that your DH went to all that trouble to try to think of a nice time out for you. As long as you let him know you appreciate the gesture and kindly tell him you'd like to do something else, I don't think that's inappreciative at all. And even if it wasn't handled in a respectable manner, I highly doubt he'd leave you for wanting to do something else on your birthday! :)
No....hubby never said he would leave me .... LOL Another female did. .... an unmarried female.
Quoting jellymom599:
No its doesn't its your birthday your day so if u wanna do something other then what he wants then he should be fine with that also, he really said if you keep acting like that he going to leave you wow that's a slap in the face you should of done something without him if he wanted to act like that that's not right.
do u like kissing still?
- danarae1976
on Feb. 11, 2012 at 4:24 PM