To day my husband told me that he feels our marriage is like we are roommates or friends w/benefits. What do I say to that? We have been pulling apart form each other and its not getting any better. He told me all my faults over dinner and I just sat there. I had to ask him way did he marry me. My marriage is falling apart and part of me wants it to and then I want to save it. We are so different I don't know why I would think it would work. This is more or less a vent. I feel like I'm going crazy.
Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:Then start going alone. They can give you the tools to help you through this with or without him. And, he might start going with you when he sees the positive changes you are making for yourself.
Quoting lang6000:he won't go. thanks
Well...if you arent sure you want it to work, then i'm not really surprised that he thinks that. Even if you havent said anything, it probably shows through in your actions. I guess now you have a lot of thinking to do. Have you tried counseling at all?
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time for you to sit down and make the lists.
list 1) WHY I wanted to stayed married to him
list 2) Why I don't want to be married to him
then decide.If you decide to stay I agree go to counseling even if you go alone.
I'm sorry for your trouble! How long have you been married and do you have children together? Do you think the things he's complaining about are valid?
i doubt anyone can really help
- lang6000
on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:53 AM