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friends w/benefits

Posted by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:53 AM
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banging head into wall To day my husband told me that he feels our marriage is like we are roommates or friends w/benefits. What do I say to that? We have been pulling apart form each other and its not getting any better. He told me all my faults over dinner and I just sat there. I had to ask him way did he marry me. My marriage is falling apart and part of me wants it to and then I want to save it. We are so different I don't know why I would think it would work. This is more or less a vent. I feel like I'm going crazy.

 

 

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SarahLizyB
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:54 AM
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Try couples counciling. Sorry :(
lang6000
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 3:58 AM

he won't go. thanks

rayroe2
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 4:00 AM

 I am so sorry!! I hope you can find happiness...if you wannna talk about it how are yall different like what goes on that is causing this?

coffeebeansgurl
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 4:00 AM
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You are friends and you have sex?win win!
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Mrs.Kubalabuku
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 4:06 AM
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Then start going alone.  They can give you the tools to help you through this with or without him.  And, he might start going with you when he sees the positive changes you are making for yourself.

Quoting lang6000:

he won't go. thanks


elyciasmom08
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 10:10 AM
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Quoting Mrs.Kubalabuku:

Then start going alone.  They can give you the tools to help you through this with or without him.  And, he might start going with you when he sees the positive changes you are making for yourself.


Quoting lang6000:

he won't go. thanks


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shadow_lark
by Silver Member on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:01 AM
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 Well...if you arent sure you want it to work, then i'm not really surprised that he thinks that.  Even if you havent said anything, it probably shows through in  your actions.  I guess now you have a lot of thinking to do.  Have you tried counseling at all?

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lucky2Beeme
by Silver Member on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:37 AM
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time for you to sit down and make the lists.

list 1) WHY I wanted to stayed married to him

list 2) Why I don't want to be married to him

then decide.If you decide to stay I agree go to counseling even if you go alone.

Lindalou907
by Silver Member on Feb. 12, 2012 at 11:53 AM

I'm sorry for your trouble! How long have you been married and do you have children together? Do you think the things he's complaining about are valid?

muisjes
by on Feb. 12, 2012 at 2:32 PM
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Why does he put all the blame on you!
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