Why I hate V-day

[GotSomeKids]

1.  It is a stupid made up holiday only 1 1/2 months after Christmas.

2. Your urged to spend above and beyond the Christmas gifts for no reason at all.

3.  I'm so sick and tired of hearing women (yes women) whine and complain about how their hubby/bf/so didn't get them what they wanted.  Or, how he didn't get them anything at all.  Or, if they put effort into it, it's not good enough.  Why?  It's a stupid made up holiday. 

I would be more happy if my hubby (and he does) got me stuff on a non-holiday just because.  Not because he felt forced to because of some stupid holiday and unreachable expectation that marketing and narrow viewed women set for men.

If you treated him like gold he will treat you like gold all year round instead of just showing it on this single stupid day.

Okay, stepping off my rant for the day pedastal. 

[thatgirl70]

Just curious, but why do you think it's automatically the wife's (girlfriend's, etc) fault? That's quite an assumption there.

This year, I've seen more complaints like this one than anything else about Valentine's. Ok, so it's a made up holiday and some women are really into it and some aren't. It's not a big deal, their lives don't affect you.

DH has never been big about getting me gifts (except for Christmas) or flowers or anything and yeah, sometimes it hurts. It's not about me treating him badly (and yes, I do have my bitchy moments, but he also has his asshole moments), it's just something he doesn't think about. Doesn't mean I can't wish it were different. 

This year, I don't get to have my DH on Valentine's Day. He's stuck out in the middle of nowhere at an oilfield site. I'd rather he be home, but that's not going to be the case. We did get into a discussion about the holiday and he asked me what I wanted. I told him honestly that I really wanted flowers. Just for once, I wanted to be treated like a girl (ok, an older girl, but a girl), and I'm not interested in chocolates, jewelry or expensive things. So, flowers he's getting me. I know, because he's very bad about surprises and he told me. Plus I saw it on the bank statement, LOL.

So yeah, don't take anyone's feelings about it personally. Like I said, it doesn't affect you, plus people are going to bitch until the end of time (and you're going to see it again for Mother's Day). You just gotta let it roll off your back.

[BonitaM]

From all that I've heard it's not a made up holiday.  It stems from a priest who married couples in secret during a very trying time.  We don't really celebrate Valentine's but we do acknowledge it.  DH isn't big on any occasion so I never expect a gift from him for any of them.  If he does great if he doesn't no biggie.  I've got him....that's all I ever wanted.

[GotSomeKids]

I don't take it personally.  And, I never once said it's all the womans fault.  But, you don't often hear men complaining about Valentine's Day.

I'm just tired of hearing women bitch about it.  Don't get me wrong.  If someone and their honey choose to celebrate it, hey more power to you and if on occasion it bothers you, hey I get that to. 

I'm talking about the women who complain all the time and no matter what her honey does, it's not good enough.  It just irritates me to see and hear women (not neccesarily hear all the time) get this holier than though attitude about one stupid day of the year.  Then, when you see a man at least try, they some woman gets some crab ass attitude about how he didn't get her that great Coach purse or her favorite perfume, or forget the sentimentality of the gift because he didn't wrap it up good enough for her.

Just heard too much of it this week I guess.

[GotSomeKids]

I suppose depending on how you look at it.  The celebrations are actually on the date of burial for two differnt Saints with the last name of Valentine.  However, it wasn't until the 14th century that it was a "romantic" connection when Chaucer wrote a poem to the King and Queen of England. 

Still, I think "some" women get so stuck on "getting" something and the commercialization of the day, they completely forget the romanticism and meaning of the day.

Quoting BonitaM:

From all that I've heard it's not a made up holiday.  It stems from a priest who married couples in secret during a very trying time.  We don't really celebrate Valentine's but we do acknowledge it.  DH isn't big on any occasion so I never expect a gift from him for any of them.  If he does great if he doesn't no biggie.  I've got him....that's all I ever wanted.

[BonitaM]

I totally agree.  

Quoting GotSomeKids:

I suppose depending on how you look at it.  The celebrations are actually on the date of burial for two differnt Saints with the last name of Valentine.  However, it wasn't until the 14th century that it was a "romantic" connection when Chaucer wrote a poem to the King and Queen of England. 

Still, I think "some" women get so stuck on "getting" something and the commercialization of the day, they completely forget the romanticism and meaning of the day.

Quoting BonitaM:

From all that I've heard it's not a made up holiday.  It stems from a priest who married couples in secret during a very trying time.  We don't really celebrate Valentine's but we do acknowledge it.  DH isn't big on any occasion so I never expect a gift from him for any of them.  If he does great if he doesn't no biggie.  I've got him....that's all I ever wanted.

[CameronsMommy23]

If you want to celebrate it and dh does too cool, if you don't then that's cool too IMO. It's like any other holiday in that no one has to celebrate it. I think women want to be romanced and they figure if it's a day that everyone knows about then their dh's can make it special somehow without too much of a big deal.

My husband and I already gave each other our gift and the actual day will be a family celebration this yr w\our kids. (Last yr we went out alone) I'm perfectly happy with it that way. It is whatever you want it to be. :)

[Hildegarde]

What's wrong with participating in a made up holiday? It's fun to celebrate life. Secretary's day is a made up holiday, so is mothers day, fathers day, grandparents day, and don't forget boxing day in Canada. My oldest son made up a holiday on July 1st that our family celebrates yearly, called brothers day. My three boys buy or make each other little trinkets, have junk to eat, and celebrate being brothers together! It's so heartwarming to see! Should we show our love to those in our lives year round? You bet, but what's wrong with participating and engaging in life?

[GotSomeKids]

Like I said in a subsequent posting, if you do, more power to you.  I'm just saying why I'm so spanking sick of it.  I just had enough complaining this week.  I actually had a conversation with a woman mad at her hubby who bought her something, but got mad because he didn't wrap it properly.  Another woman upset because her hubby bought her the wrong purse.  Seriously?

I just don't understand why women get this upset over it.  Not the fact the people celebrate it in general.

I suppose I could have clarified that better.

Ugg!!!!!!

[Lucky2BaMomof2]

Uhh... I spend it alone every year, our with my kids...

[farther]

 you are mostly right. but society has my hubby convinced he needs to get me something, so he will. i support your plight in making no woman feel special... 4 all u newbs that is sarcasm