How many of you ladies ever ask yourself why did I marry my husband? Is it a bad thing that I do almost every day?
Now let me explain why I ask. I am 26 almost 27, my husband is 40. He is so set in his ways. I have depression and sometimes I have mood swings. Last night I had a lot on my mind from counseling and instead of my husband asking me what was wrong, he goes hids in the bedroom and watches tv. I asked him why he was in the bedroom and he said " because you are in one of your moods". What the hell does that mean anyways. I am also the type of person that lets everything get to them. I don't like that I do this but I am a people pleaser as my counseler puts it. My opion about myself and what I do is base on everyone around me. I can't stand I do this and I can't stand that I will make everyone else happy before myself. But It is who I am and I am trying to working on changing it throw counseling. I guess I just dont understand why my husband has to be such a dick when I just need him to be there for me. Maybe I am asking to much of him or something. I don't know. Well thank you for listening.
do you guys do counseling together? maybe that could help him be able to understand your needs better?
HUGS! sometimes guys just don't understand what exactly we need from them.
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we have tried counseling together and it don't work at all. It made it worse for the most part. The only way he will understand my needs better is be willing to do so and he is not. But thank you for your help.
Quoting -mrs.mamma-:
do you guys do counseling together? maybe that could help him be able to understand your needs better?
HUGS! sometimes guys just don't understand what exactly we need from them.
Been there done that. My husband is almost 11 yrs older than I . he is an old stick in the mud. Been there done that. Do you pray? I do and sometimes I feel like when I want something from my husband all I have to do is pray and the LORD in His mercy and grace gives me what I need. Also I found as I do for others my self-esteem goes higher because I am not focused on myself. Hope this helps hugs.
thank you I will try writing him a letter. Might not give it to him but maybe just writing it down will help. Glad to know I am not the only one that feels this way.
Quoting MsMikeyy:
Omg we are in the same boat & the same type of person. But you should try counseling together or if he doesnt listen write him a detailed note explaining how you feel. I shouldnt give advice cause I cant even take my own but hope that helps. HUGS !!
I have pray from time to time. I like to do things for ours but sometimes it gets me hurt and used and walked on ( my family does this a lot). ty
Quoting mommaof697:
Been there done that. My husband is almost 11 yrs older than I . he is an old stick in the mud. Been there done that. Do you pray? I do and sometimes I feel like when I want something from my husband all I have to do is pray and the LORD in His mercy and grace gives me what I need. Also I found as I do for others my self-esteem goes higher because I am not focused on myself. Hope this helps hugs.
You have to talk to him about how you feel when you feel it even if you don't know why at the time. That's the only way he's going to understand. It sounds like he was maybe trying to do what he thought was best. He thought you were in a particular mood, and rather than hang out and maybe say something that might make you mad, he hung out somewhere else hoping it would pass. I may be wrong but that's how I would interpret it.
sure i do sometimes... but most of the time im happy because hes better than my abusive ex would ever and will ever be
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i doubt anyone can really help
- bestmom72106
on Feb. 16, 2012 at 9:35 AM