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Are married women really not supposed to do this? Edit in Purple

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 I was talking with a few friends of mine about being married. All three of us have been married for a few years now. K has been having issues with her husband and is thinking about leaving. So we asked her what the problem is. She said he wants her to do things sexually that she doesn't think a wife should do. We asked what he wanted and she said things like oral sex, and sexy lingerie. Didn't seem to big of a deal to me. So it got me wondering why would she think this?
What do you ladies think is appropriate for a man and wife to do? Are there certain sexual acts a wife shouldn't do? Why?

Wow! I log off for one night and came back to a million responses! :) I'm going through them now but wanted to say thank you to everyone who responded! I'll try to respond to as many as I can...

by on Mar. 24, 2012 at 10:19 PM
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ShyJen
by on Mar. 26, 2012 at 7:18 PM
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 Thats between the couple. Everyone is different. The wife shouldnt do something if they dont want to do it, divorce shouldnt be the answer though. It sounds like they need to talk things through more.

Bromance0612
by on Mar. 26, 2012 at 7:19 PM
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I used to think the same thing and then I read a book, a Christian book, and it makes great points! To sum it up, everything is acceptable with your spouse if both are comfortable with it!
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slpippin1978
by on Mar. 26, 2012 at 7:19 PM
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Not every women likes oral. They don't want to get or receive it. She may be uncomfortable with doing these things because she may view oral as something dirty. I love making my husband happy and I will do it spontaneously. He never knows what to expect. So it keeps it "spicy"! If it were my friend, I would buy her a subscription to play girl. Then she can read up on all kinds of sexy stuff on her own time. Curiosity killed the cat!!
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djsg11
by on Mar. 26, 2012 at 7:20 PM
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EVERYTHING!!!! Drive your husband wild and always have him wanting more and keep things from going stale. It's the ONLY advice my mother gave me when I was about to walk down the aisle- I was SO shocked by my conservative mother! She said to me that it's the one thing that brings the marriage BACK into perspective when the children, life, career and other things get in the way.

We have been going strong for almost 13 years and we always try new things and keep it fresh. We both workout all the time and sometimes I like wearing my stilettos and thong around the house. We are quite open in hearing each other and we respect each other in the sex area. Let's put it this way- when we both die and the kids go through the house, they will find our naughty box, the stripper pole, the swing and ALL OF MY TOYS!

Oh, for the bible-belt women, the bible does say, "MAY HER BREAST SATISFY YOU,". Plus read Song of Solomon - it's very sensusal - yes, the bible! and once you say "I DO, Then YOU DO! Smile!
steffers96
by on Mar. 26, 2012 at 7:21 PM

Exactly! How do you know if you'll like it or not unless you try it once? It's just like food! I used to HATE seafood, but when I met my DH, he loved it and we celebrated his 19th birthday at Red Lobster, so I had no choice but to eat seafood...and now I LOVE it!!  ;)

Quoting saltyalley1227:

Yeah she was mortified her mom even brought it up. Lol. She did it like a day or 2 before their wedding. I'm definitely of the opinion you have to try it at least once. Like you said, how do you know you don't like it?!?


Quoting steffers96:

I was raised VERY VERY conservative and am still that way - however - how can someone say they don't like something unless they've tried it - and also, just because someone is conservative doesn't mean they don't like to have some fun in the bedroom with their spouse...I'm one of those women that LOVE to spice it up...(nothing nasty like porn or that garbage) LOL!  ;)

P.S.Some people are just PRUDE!!! ROFL!!

Quoting saltyalley1227:

My sister in laws mom (brothers mil) told her wives aren't supposed to do oral/anal. Shes super conservative. My SIL basically said never talk to me about what goes on in the bedroom again. Maybe she was raised really conservative?




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luvbnmom3
by on Mar. 26, 2012 at 7:21 PM
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Really if your married, yalls having unprotected sex then why the condom for oral???


Quoting Faeta:

anything she is comfortable doing is fair game with a hubby!!



dh loves oral and would love for me to give it without a condom on... But i dont want to and i wont. So if he wants oral from me he is poping on a condom and im getting poprocks in the mouth....

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frangiemily
by on Mar. 26, 2012 at 7:21 PM

you should def try cuz it can be fun...


hurricane37
by on Mar. 26, 2012 at 7:23 PM
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Uhm. I thought that was the whole point of being married is so that you could share things together in love. Why would she leave him over that? Cant she just say she doesnt want to do that? Cant they talk about it? When I got married, my husband had experience but I did not and he wanted me to do things that I didnt want to do but he did not think anything about it when I didnt want to do it. However, it is not because it is not appropriate for a wife to do to her husband. What a couple does in the privacy of their own bedroom is no one's business.

3BoyzMom
by on Mar. 26, 2012 at 7:23 PM
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What on earth? I think as long as its respectful, not physically or otherwise harmful to either person  and so long as its something they both feel comfortable doing, DO IT.  Oral sex... role playing... sexy lingerie... etc. She has issues obviously,  if you cannot do it IN marriage, when are you supposed to do it? Is that only for people who sleep with all their boyfriends?  I have been married for 14 years and I love to wear sexy panties and nighties and the like.  The older I get the "naughtier" I wanna be! lol.  Its fun, its safe... its in my marriage!  Why shouldn't I want to please my husband and he please me and we have fun doing it?!  I would think your friend has had some sexual abuse and his desires are bringing these issues to the surface...

markrobsmom
by on Mar. 26, 2012 at 7:24 PM

This

Quoting Sweets27:

Every marriage is different.


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