Are married women really not supposed to do this? Edit in Purple
I was talking with a few friends of mine about being married. All three of us have been married for a few years now. K has been having issues with her husband and is thinking about leaving. So we asked her what the problem is. She said he wants her to do things sexually that she doesn't think a wife should do. We asked what he wanted and she said things like oral sex, and sexy lingerie. Didn't seem to big of a deal to me. So it got me wondering why would she think this?
What do you ladies think is appropriate for a man and wife to do? Are there certain sexual acts a wife shouldn't do? Why?
Wow! I log off for one night and came back to a million responses! :) I'm going through them now but wanted to say thank you to everyone who responded! I'll try to respond to as many as I can...
I'm not sure why she thinks this. In part probably the way she was raised. I also think that she is a very shy person and has these ideas that wives aren't supposed to do things like oral because they are a wife. She is very lady like and 'proper'.
Quoting Sexymom22:
I think you should do whatever you feel compfortable doing. I have no issues with wearing Lingere, in fact I love it. And doing oral doesn't bother me either, it turns me on to know I'm pleasing my man. As long as he is willing to return the favor as well. But everyone is different. Are these beliefs due to her upbringing or just her own personal beliefs? I don't think though that the way she is thinking is uncommon. I think a lot of married women are like that, or couples that have been together for years. I consider myself to be very open minded when it comes to sex, but I have limits as well. I think it is up to them as a couple to try to work this problem out, and to talk about it together. I've had to do that with my DH. I hope they get it worked out.
Exactly! There are so many things that I am willing to do with my hubby that I would never do with anyone else. Besides that its just going to be the two of us for a long time.... I don't want him to get bored with me either!
Quoting sinnerspirit:
you are married.......you should do MORE sexual acts! its just you and your spouse now......no worries of diseases or other people (hopefully) its time to have fun together and explore and try new and crazy things......it is tottally appropriate for a wife and husband to do anything and everything possible!
It's a thing called 'Consenting Adults'.... which means anything a couple decides behind closed doors is pretty much good to go.
Personally, if she's put off by oral sex, I think she's a prude. Sexy lingerie? She should have a closet full. Men are visual... I had a boyfriend who LOVED whore-red lipstick. All you had to do was put it on in front of him and he was a horny goat! Just because you're married doesn't mean you stop trying to please the other and that's what a good, healthy sex life is all about - please your partner.
Quoting LaCasse08:
If he does then maybe she should leave lol
Quoting misslady80013:
Not at all! You should be as open as you feel comfortable with your DH. If she doesn't feel comfortable then that is different. I don't feel there is anything a wife is only suppose to do in the bedroom. Also, if she isn't open to trying new things, he may go else where looking for them. Just something for her to keep in mind.
My hubby and I got married when I was 18 too! That was four years ago but we have been together for 9 years. We were high school sweet hearts so we have grown up together. Now we're an old married couple LOL! We were each others firsts, so we went from akward, to fun, to exciting. Love it!
Quoting Love060708kids:
I don't see anything wrong with lingerie or oral...ha, but some people do. I don't think anything is off limits in a marriage. For us, marriage is something we grew into together, we were married at 18 and are now 26 and we are enjoying it :) And we have four children...ha, we have an amazing sex life ;)
Excuse me. If you don't want to do these things with this man, why did you not marry a man with whom you do? When I married my husband I knew him. I married a man with whom I DO want to to an unlimited variety of intimacies. We treat eachother wonderfully and we enjoy being close
When you met your dh/so?
- carinsmommy
on Mar. 24, 2012 at 10:19 PM