Were you ever tempted to leave your hubby...what made you stay and why?

[lovemybabies32]

     

   Last year was a very rough year for my marriage, we had just reached the 10 year milestone and i thought things would only get better. Boy was I wrong, it seems like soon as we reached that important milestone then everything went downhill and very fast. it got to the point where we barely spoke to each other for 2 months straight and were sleeping in different rooms in all our years of being married this had never happened, the most we went without speaking to each other was a few days. Things deteriorated to the point where I was ready to pack up and leave, we went to counseling to work out our problems but that only seemed to make things worse and the silence between us only got louder. I cried myself to sleep many nights and prayed to God to help us come back together as husband and wife once again. After much fasting and praying and looking within myself to change those things which pushed my hubby away from me, thank God we were able to finally talk about what was tearing our marriage apart and work together to find solutions to our problems. It didn't happen over nite but over time we were able to come back from the brink of separation and possibly divorce, its a year later and now our marriage is even stronger and my heart is once again filled with love for the man I know i was meant to spend the rest of my life with.

[blondieof3kids]

i truly believe communication and compromise is the best key to make any marriage or relationship work for that matter...im so happy to hear that everything is going good for ya and yr hubby, God bless.....

[bcbmami]

Yes. Last year when I was pregnant with our daughter. He was being a complete asshole. Treating me like a door mat and my sister like a queen. He would jump to attention whenever she asked him to do something or go somewhere with her. But when I asked it was, I'll do it later or no, I don't feel like going anywhere. Plus, he was basically ignoring me except to put me down. He made me feel like shit for like 85% of my pregnancy. There is more but I'm not going to write a book tonight lol. when dd was born though, he started acting like the husband I knew.

[behonest05]

Yes, I have felt like leaving before. I left him once, but came back. It was over drugs. I didn't want him being high around me or my children. I came back though, because I love him, and I vowed to be with him through better or worse.

[elyciasmom08]

Last year when everything went down hill for us or girls were 6.5 months and 2.5 years only. I thought everything was good minus the fact the four of us were all living together in the same room at his cousins house. Then less to then two weeks to our first wedding anniversary and our seven year anniversary together he told me had not been happy a whole and had reconnected thru Facebook with his "first love" some one he had not seen or even talked to in 14 years. Next thing I know we were headed to divorce and she too had only been married less then a month was going to leave her husband to be with my husband. After a long drawn out ordeal. My husband came to his senses and realized that what he had with me and our girls was what he really wanted. As much as it hurt me to go through what he put me through I knew I love him and had to let him figure out what his heart really yearned for. Now almost a uear later we are better and stronger. I still have my days where I find myself wondering of that is ever going to happen. But I know I must leave it in gods hands. I'm a good faithful living woman and wife to my husband. He would be the biggest fool to ever risk losing me again. Because there would be no more forgiving and tur ing back. No matter how hard it would be for me I couldn't bare that kind of pain again. I know he regrets what he did not at the same time grateful for going through it and having me to stand by his side through it all, because it just proved to him all the more thy he already had what he truly wanted and desired. One thing I learned os I have to fight for what u believe in. Love is a challenge and there is nothing easy about at times but it can be the most rewarding thing in the world. I love my husband. In a way I'm glad we went through what we did, it made us both appreciate each other even more. Made our love stronger and we know with out a doubt we can conquer anything.

Quoting lovemybabies32:

 Thank you!...And I feel the same way, I never want to visit that ugliness again so I try to head off problems at the pass before they get any bigger i think this is key to preventinng huge blowups in the future.

Quoting elyciasmom08:

Yes. Last year for us as well only it was our seven year mark. But now we anti are better and stronger then ever. I hope to never experience what we went through again!! Congrats on ur working progress

[pittiesmom]

Unfortunately yes, and very recently. We've been married a little over 5 years and I caught him with his secret email account left open on the computer we share. 10 women in 6 months, never physically YET which is probably the only thing saving us right now. That and the fact he agreed to counseling and said he'll do anything to win my trust back and make me love him again. I cannot right now say I love him, but I WANT to love him again one day.

[bunnywzrd]

I have wanted to leave a few times. I even thought about suicide to get away from the problems. The only  thing that kept me here is my daughters. If it wasn't for them I don't know where I would be now. We just had our 10 year anniversary and things are going well now. I am glad we managed to work through our problems and I am glad I didn't do anything stupid.

[mom23heathens]

 Almost everyday. I think i'm homesick though. Somedays are worse than others. He makes me angry all the time.

[emt088]

Ive come very close to leaving DH a time or two, and we were actually getting shoes and socks on one random tuesday to go file for divorce during a HUGE fight, but weve always worked it out. The first year and a half of my marriage was incredibly rocky. Both DH and I had a LOT to work on starting out. Thankfully, neither of us would give up on the other. Weve learned to communicate and are in a happy place within our marriage. I love the grumbly old man bear, and nothing will ever convince me we werent meant to be.

[abouttobeamom]

How were you two able to sit down and talk

[tm88rn]

No, never.