I find myself growing apart from DF. He is treating me like I'm his maid, butler, cook, etc. I have had just about all I can handle. I honestly won't be surprised if I end up in the hospital from all the stress going on. I want things to work out for our 17 mo old DD, but Idk what to do. I am tired of him thinking he doesn't have to lift a finger. Things are going to have to change.
Well I spoke with DF last night on our way home from my in laws last night. We didn't get mad at each other which was great. I told him how I felt and he understood why I was feeling what I was feeling. I told him that it stresses me out when I feel that I have to do everything. I was like my day is on going and never stops. I do everything for the baby, and keep up with the house by myself and it gets exhausting after awhile. I asked him if he'd be willing to help me out a couple times a week even. I asked him to pick his clothes up off the floor in and into our hamper, if he sees dishes out to please put them in the dishwasher and when he is done eating not to leave his dishes so I have to clean them up. He agreed so we will see if he does it tonight.
I also told him that I do not want him to treat me like I'm his maid or his mother. That I get enought crap from his mother as it is and I do not need anything added. I told him how I feel embarrassed when his parents come over and our place is a mess and he doesn't care because they're his parents. He told me that he doesn't care what they think, which then got me upset but he saw how it bothered me and then turned around and said "but when we have company no matter who it is I will help pick up our place." It seems he is going to help me out, but we've already discussed what will happen if he doesn't. So he has until I leave to go visit my mother this summer to change his ways. Whether it'll happen, idk. i guess time will only tell. (He did apologize for treating me the way he did. And he realized that we don't live in the 1950s era.)