I thought for once instead of complaining about dh I would talk about how much harder he's trying to make things better between us. Here's what seemed to really help us. An email. Yeah I know. Sounds silly and maybe even juvenile. But I actually sat down and wrote this really long email to dh explaining my feelings and the reasons for them. I was amazed at the difference. I think because he was able to sit down and read what I was thinking and feeling without the pressure of having a very emotional me right in his face. He was able to really see things from my point of view and even admitted I was right about alot of it. He still tells me there was never any danger of an affair and since I have no proof I will simply have to take his word for that. So yesterday while I was at work he vacuumed and washed dishes. He even vacuumed the couch (dog hair). This morning he didn't work so he surprised me at my office with a breakfast bowl and some o.j. Last night he turned off the video game and came to bed for some much needed cuddle time even tho it was a bit early and not a work night for him.