A little bit better every day!!!

[funnymom29]

I thought for once instead of complaining about dh I would talk about how much harder he's trying to make things better between us.  Here's what seemed to really help us.  An email.  Yeah I know.  Sounds silly and maybe even juvenile.  But I actually sat down and wrote this really long email to dh explaining my feelings and the reasons for them.  I was amazed at the difference.  I think because he was able to sit down and read what I was thinking and feeling without the pressure of having a very emotional me right in his face.  He was able to really see things from my point of view and even admitted I was right about alot of it.  He still tells me there was never any danger of an affair and since I have no proof I will simply have to take his word for that.  So yesterday while I was at work he vacuumed and washed dishes.  He even vacuumed the couch (dog hair).  This morning he didn't work so he surprised me at my office with a breakfast bowl and some o.j.   Last night he turned off the video game and came to bed for some much needed cuddle time even tho it was a bit early and not a work night for him. 

[-mrs.mamma-]

so glad things are getting better for you! I'll pray that they continue to do so for you and your DH!

HUGS!

[jgattis]

Congratulations!  

DH and I write letters to each other too.  We try to talk f2f but, we are both so headstrong that it just ends up being a shouting match.  By writing letters/e-mails, you are right...*you* get a chance to really, calmly write/say exactly what you want and put lots of thought into it.  Then, he can read it and re-read it before responding.

I'm glad you found an effective way to communicate! :)

[emtgirl885]

Awe, so sweet!

[BonitaM]

Yay, that sounds great.  Glad things are getting better for you.

[funnymom29]

Thank you ladies!  I just figured since I come on here so often to vent when things are not so great it would be a good thing to talk about things getting better.  It makes me feel good that he responded well to my writing and really seemed to put thought into what I was feeling.  I don't care about being "right".  I just want to be heard and to feel like he cares.  I really feel that now. 

[proudmum23]

That's awesome! I write hubby letters a lot and buy him cards just to say I love him. He loves it. Also if I think a discussion will turn into an argument I text if I he's gone and he is able to soak it in and them responds correctly. What ever works for you continue to do so. :) now do some thing sweet for him.