Issue with my husband

[elizabeth90988]

I'm not sure how willing people will be to talk about this on a public form. But I am really frustrated and need some opinions. My husband has always smoked pot since I met him. Not everyday but here and there and whenver he can. I just think he should stop. I don't like it. I dont like any addicting habit that is mind altering. He says I am just being "square". Am I really?

[sweetiekin]

You could go home from work and slam down a few beers and your employer could care less though. They're probably at home having a drink too. Funny how that works.

[Too.Cute]

No you are not. I would be so upset if my hubs smoked pot occasionally. I can't imagine how irritating that would be.

I'm sure you know that smoking pot is illegal and could land his butt in jail at least for one night. I'm not sure what state you are in but in mine you do go to jail minimum one night.

[lady_peddie619]

personally i dont think pot is bad. my husband and i smoke and everything is perfect, it all depends on the persn and how its affecting them, if hes being lazy and stupid when hes high then i dont think he should smoke  but if it levels things out then i dont see a problem with it. also if hes smoking around the baby thats obviously not okay. you have the right to your own opinion and if you dont like it then he should at least respect your ddecision ya know??(:

[Momof3smoochies]

Your not square. Your just being responsible. Im not going to lie. I admit I did smoke some when I was a teen. It never did anything for me. But to others it was just an excuse to act stupid. Make him choose his family or his weed.

[cole679]

Pot is just soooooo way worse than Alcohol isn't it??

[cole679]

This.

Quoting lady_peddie619:

personally i dont think pot is bad. my husband and i smoke and everything is perfect, it all depends on the persn and how its affecting them, if hes being lazy and stupid when hes high then i dont think he should smoke  but if it levels things out then i dont see a problem with it. also if hes smoking around the baby thats obviously not okay. you have the right to your own opinion and if you dont like it then he should at least respect your ddecision ya know??(:

[cole679]

The only reason its illegal is gov can't tax it, it goes naturally, if planted anywhere.

Quoting manamott:

It's illegal...period. I don't think it should be but that doesn't matter. It is. And with children, there's just no way I would risk it.

[opal10161973]

If you are in a state where it's legal and he has a Rx for it, then there's no legal reason to be upset.  However, if you aren't in one of those states, you have every right to be upset.  It's still breaking the law and he can get arrested for it.  If he injures himself at work, Workman's Comp won't do anything and he could lose his job.  Then where will your family be?  He needs to Dad up and be responsible.  IDC how many of his family members do it.  If it makes you uncomfortable now, after having a child, he needs to respect you and the child.  Pot can cling to clothes and it's not impossible that the child could get some in their system this way.  Not likely, but not impossible either.  While pot may not be the best thing for an adult to do, a child's system does not need to be burdened by another element to fight off.  Children's system are very different than adults. 

However, you can ask him to quit for the child, but be prepared if he decides not to.  If you are going to stand your ground on this, stand firm.  If you find out later that he has just been hiding it from you, you may have to leave him, even if for only a few days.  People are allowed to change as they age and their lives change.  It's actually not a requirement of a relationship that you must honor in highness or while square. 

[Gmgej]

Nope there is a time to grow up, you aren't being anything but adult.

[FrankAndLola]

Yes you are. And fwiw, it's not addicting. Really.