For example if you have a fantasy of being with multiple men that you actually want to expierence sex with another man in real life on some level.
I do not agree. I believe just because talking about something or fantasizing about something is arousing to you that does not mean you ever want ANY part of it in real life. You may not even have an interest in it in real life..
He put it this way. If you think about winning the lottery you imagine winning a huge amount like a couple million dollars, but you wouldn't turn down a few hundred either. So if you fantasize about 10 men at once you might be happy with 2 or 3 at once.