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So, lately the dh and I have been having arguments. But today he called in sick to work so he could help me around the house, because I've been stressed out. He plans on taking tomorrow off as well so I have a bit more of a break.

Yesterday, I nearly burnt down the house because g-pa spilled milk from his potatoes in the oven, and didn't clean it up. So,  I cleaned out the oven, taking nearly 3 hours to scrub, and practically chisel the burnt milk from the bottom.

Dh took care of the baby all morning while I cleaned the kitchen and the bedroom. I was feeling a bit overwhelmed by the heat (nearly 80 here and the heat was still on -_-)  so I laid down while the baby slept, and dh came in and surprised me with a back rub and leg rub!! He hasn't shown initiative on affection in a good while.

The baby woke up and I was about to get her, and he said "No, I got it." WOW! Again, never showed this much initiative to make my day a bit easier. So, while he played with dd, I got all the laundry caught up on, and found the only mower in the garage that works and mowed the lawn.

I have no idea what I did/said to get this change in him, but I'm not complaining. He's the man of my dreams come true today!

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by on Apr. 19, 2012 at 6:50 PM
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LovableFox
by on Apr. 21, 2012 at 3:40 PM
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Awww how precious! My love is constantly thoughtful and I don't take it for granted...he does the dishes, laundry, cleaning, vehicle maintenance, etc. I massage his feet 3 or 4 times daily work or not, and give full massages in the evening..it's wonderful to have helpful men :D

Krysden
by Platinum Member on Apr. 21, 2012 at 4:02 PM

I know you didn't ask for my 2 cents, and I probably don't need to say this but... there is a difference between hiding it from you and just not telling you.   Hiding it would mean he was going out of his way to keepyou from finding out.    If he left the number up it doesn't sound like he was really trying very hard to hide it.   Have you gotten to talk to him about it?  Men often see things a bit differently than we do. 

Quoting nverheyn2011:

I found out on my own. He left the number up on the computer screen, since he uses google voice to text people, and he was asking her if she wanted to hang out at his dad's. I called the number to see who it was, and it turned out to be his ex.

Quoting Krysden:

Did he tell you  or did you find out on your own?

Quoting nverheyn2011:

So... yeah... I found out today he's been hiding the fact that he's been talking to his ex. While I'm not mad that he's talking to her, as she is going through a rough patch, I'm more hurt at the fact that he has to hide it from me.




nverheyn2011
by on Apr. 21, 2012 at 6:27 PM

Yes I spoke to him about it. I know he was hiding it from me, because one of the texts said "had to change my password so the wife doesn't find out." I found out only because he forgot to log out. And I do try my hardest to not snoop through his personal things, because I promised him that. We've had troubles with him hiding things from me (i.e. porn, which I dislike because it makes me feel replaced.) And every day when his back was turned I was looking through his phone (at the time when he had one) and the computer's history.

But I promised him if he would stop, I would stop. And I have. This was just an accidental thing, and the number was not one I recognized, so I just wanted to know who it was. I thought it would be perhaps a buddy from work, and when a woman answered the phone, then I got snoopy.

When I talked to him (and her) about this, both said nothing was going on, and I believe him. Or at least, I want to believe it. But in the back of my mind, there's those damn "what ifs" racing around, trying to get the better of me. I want to stay with this man the rest of my life, no matter what... so if he says it's nothing, then I am trusting, until further signs of him being unfaithful to me and our daughter, appear.

Quoting Krysden:

I know you didn't ask for my 2 cents, and I probably don't need to say this but... there is a difference between hiding it from you and just not telling you.   Hiding it would mean he was going out of his way to keepyou from finding out.    If he left the number up it doesn't sound like he was really trying very hard to hide it.   Have you gotten to talk to him about it?  Men often see things a bit differently than we do. 

Quoting nverheyn2011:

I found out on my own. He left the number up on the computer screen, since he uses google voice to text people, and he was asking her if she wanted to hang out at his dad's. I called the number to see who it was, and it turned out to be his ex.

Quoting Krysden:

Did he tell you  or did you find out on your own?

Quoting nverheyn2011:

So... yeah... I found out today he's been hiding the fact that he's been talking to his ex. While I'm not mad that he's talking to her, as she is going through a rough patch, I'm more hurt at the fact that he has to hide it from me.





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