Are any of you married to a musician?

[Sunshine257]

I am I have always been supportive of his music. But now that we have a child I find myself getting aggravated with his rehearles and the extra time he takes out for music. It's just he is always upstairs playing music or when I talk with him his mind wonders off to music. I am very proud of his music and I just try hard to bite my tongue and not bitch. It is just getting hard lately I never cared before our child but I just feel he should be spending time with us and less on his music. Does anyone else know how I feel?

[soymujer]

My hubby is a musician, however, he's not in a band.  He wants to be.  I do get tired about hearing how he wishes he was in one or how he wishes he had someone to jam with.  I do know how you feel about talking to him and mind wondering to music because mine does that.

[JennPearce]

Dh used to have a band he would play with the first couple years together. I didn't mind it because I love music but then again he had other hobbies that bugged me so this was nothing lol

[MissElissa21]

DD's bio dad is a musician. This was a major issue for us when we were together. He was always playing music, or tapping on things, or running off to write something down or record it really quick. I thought I was supportive of him, but when he wasn't working because he wanted to be a rockstar I had enough. He has been here for 10 years trying to "get his break" and has met some great people along the way. He is a really good musician, but it seems to be his number 1 priority, and that's something that a child can't even change for some people. I hope you can talk to him and work something out. He can't help his mind wandering, but maybe he can limit his music playing time to a certain time of day and you both can find another time of day to spend time together. 

My hubby loves music, and loves to play, but since we have been married, he has returned one guitar to its rightful owner, and one is stored in the top of the closet. He had a drum set and 10 speakers, but I convinced him to sell them. This musician puts his family before music. Now, World of Warcraft is another story lmao!

[nicole6870]

My DH doesn't have a band. He plays guitar and was considering/wanting to get a band together and I flipped. Sorry, but we have too much on our plate as is. I know i'm not much help but hopefully one of the other mommas on here w/musician hubbies will see your post.

[mom2bell]

I was.  And I know how you feel.  I also got tired of the extra women.  Hope you don't get that one!  

[RaLeighsMommy11]

My husband is a drummer in a band & I'm fully supportive of it. He has always wanted to be in a band so when he got the opportunity 8 months ago I encouraged him to do it. It's not all he thinks about he can have a normal conversation without thinking about it. He works 40 hrs a week & is in college full time. He makes sure he does not practice his drums until AFTER our dd is in bed. His studio is 2 minutes from our house so it works out good for us because while I'm giving her a bath & putting her to bed he will go drum for an hour or 2.. Gives me my down time by myself @ nights for about an hour to soak in a hot bath or watch one of my shows that I missed. Then he comes home takes a quick shower & we go to bed. His band only practices on Saturdays. He is off most Saturdays so he will spend time with us till about 3 then practice & come home so he can give our dd her bath & get her ready for bed. He has about 2-3 shows a month right now but that might increase soon. He actually had one last night. It's never an issue with us but that's because he puts us before the band!

[RaLeighsMommy11]

You should be supportive of what he wants because he will just resent you later

Quoting nicole6870:

My DH doesn't have a band. He plays guitar and was considering/wanting to get a band together and I flipped. Sorry, but we have too much on our plate as is. I know i'm not much help but hopefully one of the other mommas on here w/musician hubbies will see your post.

[elyciasmom08]

I am. My dh plays guitar and has for along time. He very talented and could go far. Heis just now starting to get back into his music. He is thinking of starting an aquostic band. I think he will still balance out family and music. The girls love hearing him play. I missed hearing him play and I'm happy he is starting again. Reminds of us before kids. It's nice. Sometimes I can irritated since he doesn't have place of his own to play but in time he will

[Jennifer_57]

My SO has a band and practice daily. He has certain practice nights and not on those nights he will practice on his own for a couple hours. Its what he loves to do and how he expresses himself. If spending time is an issue, we communicate and resolve. He plays in the basement, which is fine, and his band members/friends are more like family. I won't ask him to change the person he is, I would flip if he asked me to change who I am. With communication you shouldnt have an issue..bitching won't help either.

[nicole6870]

Lol! F it! He can resent me all he wants if he's that immature. I have supported every one of his whims and been through more financial hell than anyone should. He has a business, a wife, and 3 children to take care of. I have given up more dreams and aspirations to be a good mommy and wife than anyone should. My health is crap and I don't have insurance to help. Why? Bc he runs his own business and we can't afford insurance. I sold my horse. Why? Bc I didn't have time to ride him though DH rode his frequently. I get angry and resentful at times for the many dreams i've given up but I get over it. He will too.

Quoting RaLeighsMommy11:

You should be supportive of what he wants because he will just resent you later

Quoting nicole6870:

My DH doesn't have a band. He plays guitar and was considering/wanting to get a band together and I flipped. Sorry, but we have too much on our plate as is. I know i'm not much help but hopefully one of the other mommas on here w/musician hubbies will see your post.