it all goes back to me writing him a letter (at that time high school boyfriend) dumping him when he was in basic training for no reason other than a boy here bugging me too.
We are now married and love each other soo much, it feels incredible to feel so loved and cared for, but our problem is that he feels inadaquate in everything, and i think it goes back to the letter, 11 years ago. He took that letter and believed it and lived by it, he did everything you could possible do in the special ops..and beyond..He thought that he wasnt good enough..but none of that was true and he we are back together and married and yet hes afraid of me leaving him, and him not being good enough of a hubby or lover or provider or cook, when he is, he is and he just doesnt believe me cause i have a very hard time showing it emotionally i guess. Im not sure what to do, its a weird circumstance, i feel horrible that my dh feels inadequate cause hes awesome and lives and breaths for me,he is the most selfless person ever and he will make a great dad too.
im just not sure how to get through to him, ive wrote him poems, showed him how i was searching for him for all those years, i tell him all the time how much i look up to him and love him and how great he is in bed..but none of that matters. He is virtually pushing me away from not believing me when i tell him those things, it hurts that he hurts if that makes sense.