So my question is, where do I go from here? Do I call it again during the day and talk to her? If so, what do I say?
In their messages he did mention that he was out with our daughter, so I know she knows he has a kid. But every other time I've questioned some thing he always comes back with some excuse. I want to find the best way to catch him up, if there is something going on. But how do I react of there isn't anything going on when I call this girl?
Quoting OWings5:
Don't do it honey!!! If you think he is up to something leave as fast as possible. Don't call though! It will just leave you with broken trust and a broken heart.
Don't call it.
For one, if she knows he's with you, she's going to lie for him. She may even lie for him if she doesn't know about you.
If he's going to lie when confronted, then the best way I can think to catch him in the act is to set him up--have someone he doesn't know try to get him to hook up or something. Although, some would say that's immature and wrong. I say, it's a means to an end, so to speak.
Good luck.
Quoting louise1212:
I already have broken trust. And I love him, I want to make out work. I don't think his is sleeping with anyone at least not yet. But I'm sick of him getting away with lying to me. I feel that in the end I need to at least call and confirm because I'm in so far with him that the only way I will levee him is if I have proof beyond the shadow of a doubt. He has came up with so many stories about everything in the past and I've never fully trusted him but this time I need to know for sure. I never wanted to have the broken home like I grew up in, for my kids. So even if I leave this time, there will always be that feeling that we could make it work, unless I know for sure.
Quoting OWings5:
Don't do it honey!!! If you think he is up to something leave as fast as possible. Don't call though! It will just leave you with broken trust and a broken heart.
Man I dont know. I dont think I would call her though. I would probably talk to him and tell him he has GOT to quit telling lies,fibs or what ever he is calling it. Tell him they are not healthy, if you do not have trust you do not have anything and right now you do not have much trust.
I was Issy the the Private eye 2 yrs ago
my middle sister called me from flordia balling her eyes out an she was going thru similar thnig's an worst that your going thru
So I secretly flew down there an followed him an took pic's of him for 3 days..........I got pictures of him going into a motel for 30 dollars an hour an got pics of him an the lady........thanks to those pic's that the judge saw......she's got the kids,the house,an the car.........i hate lying ,cheating Son of a Bitches.......................id rather have a man walk out on me to cheat then to cheat while were still in a relationship!!!!!! No STD's that way
an my sister found out her hubby was cheating when she went to the doc for a pregnancy check up an the doc told her she had claymidia........i think i would of killed him at that point!!!
hes lying for a reason .....if there wasnt anything going on you would know who she was...he might not be sleeping with her YET but if hes lying to you its just a matter of time...i wouldnt call just cause if she is trying to be with your husband then she will lie....i would definately confront him with no lame excuses...good luck girl
You know , but does your partner?
- louise1212
on Apr. 28, 2012 at 4:35 AM