My SO and I have been planning on moving in together for a couple months, my daughter is completely attached to him and I thought we had a perfect love... Last night he tells me he isnt ready, he still wants us to come to his house on the weekends but doesnt want to live together... My lease is up at the end of may and I will have to sign a new one year lease... Im not ok with playing house on the weekends with him till next year or longer. This is a complete shock..I dont know what to do or how to tell my DD.. I feel like Ive played the fool again, I thought this was forever.. he said it was forever now Im hurt and confused and its going to crush my daughter...
If you want it to be forever then why not get married instead of just living together anyway? Of course if he is not ready for that sort of commitment then you will have to either be ok with taken it slow and just dating on weekends, or let him go. Your daughter will still be able to see him even if you don't live together.
Youre absolutely right and to be honest i did tell him that Im happy he told me now instead of waiting or not saying anything.. Its just odd to me that last weekend he jokes about going with friends in to vegas and getting married and this weekend hes not ready to live together... makes me think something else is going on
Quoting conniejo75:
At least he was honest BEFORE moving in together. You need to decide if you are ok with it or not. If not then move on... do not try to pressure him into something he is not ready for
well that was a really shitty thing for him to do: lead you on like that.
Just tell your DD that you two will eventually live with your b/f but for now you want to wait until you and her are ready.
it sounds like you might end up signing a 1 year lease.
Does your DH/SO....
Who do you love more,your husband or kids
- itsallforher
on Apr. 29, 2012 at 9:52 PM