Earlier today, I told my SO that my job is having a madatory meeting in a couple weeks that I plan on going to. (I am on maternity leave for the rest of the month so I am exempt but as Assistant Manager, I wanna stay in the loop and not hit with a bunch of changes when I get back.) I told him it's on the 15th from 4 to 6 and that I need to find someone to watch him. He gave me a dirty look and said he was insulted and feels like he isn't here. I said I would have to find someone to watch him because my SO doesn't get home until after 4 most times much later. Plus, he harps about money A LOT and didn't want to start an arguement about missing hours equals smaller check stuff. He said he would work something out to sit with our son. I said thank you and he said it sounds like he is doing me a favor and not to thank him.
So, what else can I say to show him that I have noticed he is stepping his game up to help with our son more? Also, do any of your SOs or DHs feel this way? Thanks ladies!
I agree with everyone saying I shouldn't have to thank him because that is what he is suppose to do. I did bitch him out last week because I felt he wasn't doing enough. At that time, our son was 2 weeks old and he really only changed a handful of diapers. I am breastfeeding and want to give him bottles only when I am away from him. So, I feel he can pitch in with everything else. After bitching him out, he has come home and take the baby in the living room so I can nap or whatever I want to do. He is also changing more diapers, burping and playing with him too. I shouldn't have had to bitch him out for this to happen, but it is what it is and I am glad he is being involved more.
His youngest daughter is 15 and has 3 grown daughters so I understand he hasn't done this in a while but I haven't either. He said he was adjusting and that pissed me off because I didn't get to ease into being a mother. One moment I was pregnant and the next moment, they placed my beautiful miracle baby in my arms and now I have to take care of him.
This post was asking for another way to say that I noticed he is trying to be involved more and I appreciate that. Oh, while he was "Adjusting" he did 90% of the housework and that's great, but I want a better balance. Yes, this is new because he only has girls and this is my first baby. I say we both haven't done this in a while because I raised my siblings while my mom was in her room smoking her crack. We had been placed in foster care before. We were split up and I didn't want that to happen to us again so I did my mom's job. I did the cooking when we had food, cleaning, helping with homework, bathing, made sure they went to school and were clean, etc.