Mum needs counseling, and then mum and dad need marriage counseling. You don't break up a family because you decide not to love him anymore. You took vows, it doesn't say until feelings change, it says until death...get help and work through this. Don't be selfish and make your family another statistic. Divorce is easy, staying married through hard times is difficult but that's the vow you made. You knew this was for life. What, did you think your "feelings" would remain the same for 50 years? Feelings are fickle, they shouldn't control your behavior.
Quoting MomToovey:Not knowing why you don't love him, it's hard for me to say what I'd do. But I do want to let you know that love is a choice, not an emotion. So if you choose to love him, you will. Do you WANT to love your husband? That's the question you need to be asking yourself.
If so, then do it, and do everything you can to keep it exciting - date nights out, date nights in, sex often, talk all the time about anything, everything and nothing, and make sure it's fun and that you're not always doing the same things over and over again.
If you don't want to love him, it's not fair to him to stick around. He deserves someone who will fall head over heels in love with him every morning she wakes up. And lying to him, robbing him of that, is only going to make things worse for all of you, children included.
Quoting MomToovey:Not knowing why you don't love him, it's hard for me to say what I'd do. But I do want to let you know that love is a choice, not an emotion. So if you choose to love him, you will. Do you WANT to love your husband? That's the question you need to be asking yourself.
If so, then do it, and do everything you can to keep it exciting - date nights out, date nights in, sex often, talk all the time about anything, everything and nothing, and make sure it's fun and that you're not always doing the same things over and over again.
If you don't want to love him, it's not fair to him to stick around. He deserves someone who will fall head over heels in love with him every morning she wakes up. And lying to him, robbing him of that, is only going to make things worse for all of you, children included.
Quoting BannerElkHogans:tell the kid's to get over it beause no 1 stays together anymore!
Quoting all4Him999:Mum needs counseling, and then mum and dad need marriage counseling. You don't break up a family because you decide not to love him anymore. You took vows, it doesn't say until feelings change, it says until death...get help and work through this. Don't be selfish and make your family another statistic. Divorce is easy, staying married through hard times is difficult but that's the vow you made. You knew this was for life. What, did you think your "feelings" would remain the same for 50 years? Feelings are fickle, they shouldn't control your behavior.
not sure why it is bothering me but
- FabulousMum
on May. 5, 2012 at 3:23 PM