a break in a marriage?

[katemarie97]

My hubby and I have been having a rough time..we haven't been talking and he even went home to Illinois to put some space between us because all we do is argue and to be honest this little break has been nice..what are yalls thoughts on taking a break in a marriage? Have you ever done it?

[PinkHairMAMA]

Nope. Being apart for a night bothers us. How long have y'all been married?

[ShannaBee]

I think it's one of those things that can help or hurt a marriage. Depends on the people involved. Good luck to you.

[all4Him999]

No breaks that's unproductive, go to marriage counseling and work through it together.  We'll be married 13 years in June and have never taken a break or separated.  Separation in marriage is the devil's playground, IMO...good luck.

[katemarie97]

Almost two yrs..but we've seriously been through so much in that short amount of time..its amazing we are still together.and we agree that we've been through a lot with each other too much to walk away from but even still we can't stop fighting

[Kenna1212]

 just depends on the couple...dh and i have only been married lil over a year but together for almost 13 years...we had a break and imo it helped us...and it actually brought closer together.....thats just us everyone is different good luck to u guys

[MusicMom823]

Breaks are usually a death knell to a marriage.  If you aren't together, you can't learn to work things out.  If you can't work things out, you get all excited to see each other, then when you have a fight, you feel like it was better without them there....and the desire to make that separation permanent grows.

Be careful.  Sometimes it can help but in my experience, a break usually becomes permanent unless the couple truly fights for their marriage.

[JennPearce]

I think it depends on the couple. I agree that it is more productive to get counseling and work on the marriage but sometimes a break makes people realize they miss each other.

[nicole2884]

Quoting ShannaBee:

I think it's one of those things that can help or hurt a marriage. Depends on the people involved. Good luck to you.

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i just don't know personally i kinda feel like its only allowing time to go by , an adding to the issue being apart isnt allowing you to work on the issue,  seeking out counseling is addressing the issue an helping you see the big picture an deciding if you can fix it or if not part ways,would be a good option 

taking a break is SORTA like pretending its not a issue , but that's just my view

[BonitaM]

I couldn't.  If we took a break there'd be no getting back together again. 

[katemarie97]

I kinda agree..with its like ignoring the issues but when we reunite they come back. I just dont know what to do..it can be or bad I suppose it just depends on how badly you want it..we've held it together through a lot but..