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Why do women

Posted by on May. 7, 2012 at 7:19 PM
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Honestly think they CONTROL their husband/so? "he flirted online so we band internet in the HOUSE" hello! Skype,yahoo,gmail they all work on phones as well. "he had a porn magazine" *gasp*! I told him me or the magazine.. Gee easy choice right? Of curse hes going to pick the chick thats actually screwing him. But he will be sneaker about his porn, we can't change them why do we try? If you trust that hes with you and the shit he is doing remains harmless why do we act like we are actually stopping them when we give them the ultamatum? "that or me" blah blah.. So he picks you and hides his dirty little secrets better, you no longer trust him so he gets a little further in the flirting, you keep pushing him cause, ill take a guess you bring up his stupid mistakes you "caught" him making right?. Just shut up and leave or get over it. Dont try and stop him it will only make him want it more. hes going to do it either way. Why do you honestly think you control your man? Hes a man they are not ment to be controlled. Especialy by easily replaced women.
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olivejuice2
by on May. 7, 2012 at 8:09 PM
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I agree with the gist of what you're saying, but I don't like the way you worded the end. It sounds like 1. it's okay for men to try to control women, but not vice versa, and 2. men can replace their woman more easily than a woman can replace her man. I believe you might not have meant to come off that way, but that is how I read it.

Mostly though, I completely agree! The more one partner tries to control the other the deeper they drive a wedge between them. Cutting off phones and internet does nothing to solve the real problem, it's just a superficial band-aid. The trust is still gone and the lack of communication exists whether you have a computer or not.

I also agree that far too many women allow the use of porn to ruin perfectly good relationships. If a man is ignoring his woman in favor of porn and neglecting her emotionally and physically, then there is a big problem. But if he takes care of himself now and then - especially at times when she isn't in the mood or isn't available- then to me he is just trying to stay sane and stay married. If he had wanted to marry a porn star he would have. He married the woman he lives with for a reason, and if he drains his balls with a visual aid that does not mean he doesn't love or isn't attracted to his wife. Sometimes guys just need to drain their balls. Their wives need to remember that they are smoking hot ladies instead of wasting their time comparing their curves to fake porn star bodies.
bennys_mom10
by on May. 7, 2012 at 8:14 PM
the end did come off wrong lol we are just as capable of replacing them as they are us, but yes! Sex is a lot of work fit the man sometimes they just want to orgasm with out all the work, I understand cause we all need our own personal time sometimes


Quoting olivejuice2:

I agree with the gist of what you're saying, but I don't like the way you worded the end. It sounds like 1. it's okay for men to try to control women, but not vice versa, and 2. men can replace their woman more easily than a woman can replace her man. I believe you might not have meant to come off that way, but that is how I read it.



Mostly though, I completely agree! The more one partner tries to control the other the deeper they drive a wedge between them. Cutting off phones and internet does nothing to solve the real problem, it's just a superficial band-aid. The trust is still gone and the lack of communication exists whether you have a computer or not.



I also agree that far too many women allow the use of porn to ruin perfectly good relationships. If a man is ignoring his woman in favor of porn and neglecting her emotionally and physically, then there is a big problem. But if he takes care of himself now and then - especially at times when she isn't in the mood or isn't available- then to me he is just trying to stay sane and stay married. If he had wanted to marry a porn star he would have. He married the woman he lives with for a reason, and if he drains his balls with a visual aid that does not mean he doesn't love or isn't attracted to his wife. Sometimes guys just need to drain their balls. Their wives need to remember that they are smoking hot ladies instead of wasting their time comparing their curves to fake porn star bodies.

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nicole2884
by on May. 7, 2012 at 8:15 PM

i have never tried to change my man or , control him 

he is a man they look at porn , its not hurting anything, we even buy some together

i accepted him 100% for who he is before we got married , why should i expect it to be any different after we got married

getting married isnt the end all be all an it doesnt change anything

MeTaL_MoMmA_08
by on May. 7, 2012 at 8:17 PM

AGREED!! I don't attempt to "control" ot "train" my DH; if I wanted to change who/what he is, I wouldn't have married him!

bennys_mom10
by on May. 7, 2012 at 8:19 PM
Thank you! Women who get it! Lol
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roxanna79
by Bronze Member on May. 7, 2012 at 8:59 PM
My man needed and still does need tweaking from time to time. He even agrees he goes hog wild sometimes. His words "I keep him grounded". They dont need you to control them but sometimes they do need to be reminded they aren't the only one in the relationship... Just my 2 cents but I do agree with you over all
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tm88rn
by on May. 7, 2012 at 9:01 PM

I agree with you. I don't control my husband, I wouldnt' want to. However, if he made mistakes like the ones you listed, I wouldn't even bother wasting my time on him. It goes both ways. Women don't control men, but they don't control women either, and both parties have to work together to make marriage work. And men can be replaced just as easily as a woman. If the person means something to their spous, they aren't easily replaced at all. If they are so easily replaced, well, what were they doing together in the first place?

windsails
by on May. 7, 2012 at 9:52 PM

i feel like there really is no need for control, if you have trust and communication there is no need to control anything....why would you need to? now if he's doing crazy shit and you ask him to stop and he then tries to "hide" what ever it was, then it's not a matter of control anyway, it's a matter of how fast can i get "out" of this trust-less and disrespectful excuse of a relationship...just my take on it

trapmommy2
by on May. 7, 2012 at 9:55 PM
Lol go girl
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