"unhear" an unkind remark from you DH? We are under a lot of stress between my inability to work from a car accident (constant migraine, lack of concentration/comprehension) there is financial stress, caring for the children, housework I can't keep up with....I'm a wieght on my family instead of an asset right now. He's been great and way understanding for the past seven months....but today seemed to be a breaking pt for him and he mispoke(basically saying I wish you were the person/mother you used to be" and I shattered into a million pieces... He quickly backtracked and knelt down and seriously apologized that he didn't mean it the way it came out and the stress overcame him. He said he knew it wasn't my fault, he just wanted me better or at least an answer, but doc appts are so spread out. I cried, he cried b/c he upset me. I know he didn't mean it how he said it. He even came back in the room and said "I really didn't mean what I said" and I told him, that I knew that but let's not talk about it or I'll cry again." Ladies, it HURT! I do the best I can right now and I know my efforts are crappy I know he adores me, my 12 yr old knows there is a difference in me....I wish I could play and be more patient with tot....but the headaches and his squeals don't mix.
How do I "unhear" a cruel statement that was simply mispoken? I accept the apology whole hearted, he would never talk to me like that on purpose....but it was said, and it can't be unsaid. I can't sleep, now. That will make for a worse headache and an even less productive day. How do I let it go?
on May. 8, 2012 at 12:42 AM