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at least 3x a week
at least 1x a week
at least 1x every 2 weeks
sex, what is that?!?!?!
Total Votes: 8
Total Votes: 8
My husband and I have been together for 6 years. We are very happy in every way, except one thing .... I want way more sex than my husband does. We are 15 years apart in age, I am 32 and he is 47 so I know he is getting up there but not enough where he shouldn't want sex! I know plenty of other men his age who still want sex at least every day if not more than once a day. I know for a fact that he is not cheating on me. My XH was a cheater so I am bery familiar with the signs, plus that is not my DH ... he is so strongly against cheating he would never even consider it.
I have tried diffrent things to get himin the mood - I've tried:
* spontanious sex - anywhere we can as long as the kids are not with us - bathrooms, oral in the car, our back yard, the swimming pool or hot tub .... but he is never interested =(
* spicing it up - diffrent positions, new nighty, sex toys ... still nothing
* taking control - pushing him on the bed and taking his clothes off.... nope
* being submissive - waiting for him to come around ... still no
I have takled to him about it and he just says that he dosen't need sex all the time and that it doesn't bother him. I tell him that it does bother me, he apologizes. Then if it's been awhile again I will just bring up "ypu know it's been 3 weeks since we had sex again". And his response is always "oh, really I didn't realize that it had been that long". Then when we have sex after that it feels forced like he really doesn't want to but is only to try to keep me happy.
I have brought up the idea to him about having his testosterone levels checked or about seeing a doctor for other possibilities, he never disagrees with me but doesn't think it's a big deal and never takes it any further.
I have no idea but I am a very sexual person and I need to have intercourse. It's not like we don't have sex at all, it's just that we don't have sex often enough for me. On average we have sex every 3 weeks but at times it can get to 6 weeks and he thinks nothing about it!
I love my DH with all ny heart but this is really killing me, I mean I feel rejected and unwanted all the time! Right now it has been a month again .... I'm kind of getting to the point that if he actually does try to "get some" that I may just reject him. I mean I can do it on my own if he doesn't want to I don't want pitty sex!
I just don't know what to do anymore.