What would you do? My dh only helps with the kids when I tell him to. He has told me that he can't handle taking care one 1 baby, now we have 2 so it's worse. He won't even take our oldest outside to play, that's how lazy he is. He's a disabled (mentally lol) vet so he does not work at the moment.
He has told me "men are not made to take care of kids, men aren't good at it". He spends most of the day on the computer, then when I ask why he is always on the computer & isn't helping with HIS kids (ages 20 months & our latest 2 weeks old) he tells me "there's nothing else to do". WTF?! I'm a sahm running all day long, cleaning, changing diapers, feeding kids and trying to get in a moment for myself.
And he says he has nothing else to do, but sit on the computer. We've had many arguments over his computer time even before the kids were born. I just want to know how you would handle this situation.
But I would sit him down and have a serious talk. Tell him its not fair you're stuck being a single mom when their are TWO of you involved. Men do take care of children. He can either suck it up and help out , or you can leave file his ass for child support and he can take care of then by himself during visitation. Start telling him what to do. " ____ needs a diaper" "____ needs to eat" "_____needs a bath" ect... Show him the work you put in and tell him what to do and hopefully he'll slowly start doing it on his own and stop being a third grown child.
I would ask him to be responsible for something specific everyday. For example, bath time--it's the same time & routine daily.
As far as getting pregnant again...she was a surprise. Thank you for the advice.
Quoting vwd_johnson:
First thing that pops in my mind is why get pregnant again if he wasn't helping the forst year with the first kid ?
But I would sit him down and have a serious talk. Tell him its not fair you're stuck being a single mom when their are TWO of you involved. Men do take care of children. He can either suck it up and help out , or you can leave file his ass for child support and he can take care of then by himself during visitation. Start telling him what to do. " ____ needs a diaper" "____ needs to eat" "_____needs a bath" ect... Show him the work you put in and tell him what to do and hopefully he'll slowly start doing it on his own and stop being a third grown child.
Its always gotta be about him. kinda long
- jesusgirl76
on May. 9, 2012 at 6:49 PM