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we are not close anymore

Posted by on May. 9, 2012 at 9:00 PM
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i feel as though my marriage is coming to an end....my dh hasnt really talked to me since sunday and when i tell him how i feel he really doesnt care...he tells me just because im tired doesnt mean i can treat him like shit....he calls me psychotic when i say anything about the way he acts...we have been through alot, but he doesnt touch me at all. kiss me....tell me he loves me..nothing...when i bring up sex he says im not getting it until he gets a b.j....i feel as though i just dont care anymore.....we are drifting and i cant spend every waking moment worrying about what he thinks about me.....he is very controlling and verbally attacks me...i can never ever have feelings...i cant go out with my friends....im getting tired of it all...just have to find a place to live and find the strength to take the kids out of the only house they have known...

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snowbany
by on May. 9, 2012 at 9:23 PM

Sounds like it is time for you to leave him. That is NO way for a husband to speak to his wife... Do you have a family member help you to get out. If you aren't happy - your children won't be either. Do it for them.

henzel3
by on May. 10, 2012 at 2:40 AM
I agree couldn't have said it any better myself.
Shannon


Quoting snowbany:

Sounds like it is time for you to leave him. That is NO way for a husband to speak to his wife... Do you have a family member help you to get out. If you aren't happy - your children won't be either. Do it for them.


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Jennifer508
by Member on May. 10, 2012 at 2:46 AM
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I wouldn't leave, have him leave instead.
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hiba84
by Hiba on May. 10, 2012 at 2:48 AM

I am sorry mama. It is probably the time to leave, you deserve better than this.

mal546
by on May. 10, 2012 at 4:30 AM

You need counseling if you want to try to make this work. He has to change his attitude towards you. He is not respecting you. If he treats you nicely then I'm sure that you would want to please him more. He may not want to go to counseling though. Check out a website by Mort Fortel. You can purchase his CDs and he tells you how you should act if you want him back. You have to be really nice and kind to him (which is really hard to do when he is being an a hole) and eventually he will come around. My husband was treating me bad too and he started going on porn sites and texting other women on top of that. When I caught him he started to go to therapy and he is treating me better now with counseling and I made him listen to the CDs. I still don't trust him though. Why don't you make sure that he is not cheating. Look at his phone and car, etc. That might be why he is treating you bad.  When all else fails, then you can leave but at least give it a try. Good luck.

Lindalou907
by Bronze Member on May. 10, 2012 at 5:52 AM

I'm sorry,can you get him to counseling with you? Otherwise,you will just keep repeating the same s**t over and over,and you might as well get out now.

2lilmamas
by on May. 10, 2012 at 6:12 AM
You need to give him the boot. No one diserves to unappreciated and mistreated. Also your kids do not need to grow up in a negative environment. Hope you find your way and get some peace of mind.
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