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My husband and I separated like a week or so ago but yet he still asks me for naked pictures and skype sex and asks me to give this marriage a chance.we are not fb friends but I looked him up the other day and noticed his pic was of him and an ex gf.I then looked her up from a friends page bc she has me blocked and saw that she is in a relationship with my freaking husband since the end of April!? Really!?? I played it off cool to him I told him she was beautiful and I hoped he was happy and he said he was but he'd still be willing to dump her for our marriage and he kept asking me if it bothered me like he wanted me to be upset and I just simply said no.I killed him with kindness instead of blowing up like I'd usually do.he then told me he only put that picture up for me to see..immature or what? It doesn't bother me that he's moved bothers me that I'm still alone..I raise our son solo and sacrificed my life for him as any good parent does and here he is running around livin it up! :/ tears..ugh.advice? Anything would be nice
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by on May. 14, 2012 at 5:14 PM
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by Member on May. 14, 2012 at 10:23 PM

I can tell by your post that you are a smart, head strong lady.  You will be fine!  Good Luck!

by on May. 14, 2012 at 10:58 PM

Girl that same thing happened with me and my ex!! We was together for 8 years and had 3 kids then I left him and not even 2 days later he had a gf already which come to find out now he had been seeing her 2 years before we split!! But a couple of months after I left I decided I would give it a 2nd try got 8 hours away from my home for him and the next day he went back to her!! So from my personal experience I would say DONT DO IT!!!! I cant say I regret it cause I met my husband of 2 years now, but at the time it was HORRIBLE!!!

by on May. 14, 2012 at 11:19 PM
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I would quit wasting my time chatting with him. He wants his cake and eat it too.

by Jenn! on May. 15, 2012 at 12:31 AM
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He sounds very immature. Keep killing him with kindness. He doesn't deserve the satisfaction in knowing he hurt you. Especially since he's been with this girl since April!
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by on May. 15, 2012 at 1:23 AM

I feel bad for you sweetie. Its so sad how relationships are so screwed up these days and how quick people are to throw their marraiges away. Hubby and I are like the only couple we know that have lasted this long and have a good marraige. (Not perfect but we have overcome A LOT we just refuse to give up) I hope you dont rush into another mans arms just so your not alone. You may need the time to adjust and grow before being ready to commit to another marraige atleast if you want it to last. I hope you and you child stay well and that you can move forward!!! Good Luck

by Gold Member on May. 15, 2012 at 1:27 AM
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My advice, don't rebound just to show him you can keep up. Be the mom your kids need, find strength in being strong for them.
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by on May. 15, 2012 at 7:05 AM
I wouldn't say I fell out of love with him we kinda just pushed each other away with bitterness and us being separated was a much needed far as other women..yea its gonna suck but sadly he hasn't had much to do with our son anyway so I dont see him coming around too much if at protect my son from empty promises and abandonment after he builds a relationship with his dad I'd rather him sign over rights.but I agree with yall that he will more than likely be back..he doesn't ever let go of ex gfs and that alone tore our marriage apart so if and when that time comes I'm gonna kick his ass to the long sucka lol

Quoting MrzPalmer:

I have some questions to ask if you dont mind me asking them, cause I know that its really none of my business. But first I want to say that im sorry your going through this rather your hurt or not it sucks to hear about a broken family. And my questions are>> 1. Did you fall out of love with your husband? Is that way it dont hurt that yall are seperated?  2. Do you think about him bringing another women into your sons life? And how you will feel when that time comes? I think about all these things sometimes if my husband and I were to ever spilt. Although I cant imagine my life with out him, i know that even if I fell out of love with him and we ended it, I would still hurt inside cause I know he was worth me loveing at one point in time. But i really dont know what to say. Like I said you dont have to answer these questions if you dont want to. I was just wandering. And on the whole thing you doing it solo and giving up everything you wanted to do with you life just know that in the long run your son is going to admire you more then his father!

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by on May. 15, 2012 at 7:52 AM

everything here.

good luck, hun. keep your chin up! you look like a very beautiful woman!

Quoting CherryBlossom4:

Don't be bothered that you are alone. It's only been a week. Give yourself time to heal, get stronger and then move on. In the meantime, don't even entertain his ideas of phone sex, naked pics or skype sex. Ew. That is him using you and even if you are at your loneliest, you don't deserve that.

If they really are dating, let her have him. He isn't worth your time or your effort. 

Is it unfair that the guys normally get to leave, party it up, sleep around and have fun? Sure, it isn't fair. But do you really want to be with a guy like that? Let he have him. If she is sleeping with a man that hasn't been separated but a week... that doesn't say much of her, her character or her morals. Let him be an ass-hat and let her be a skank. Sounds like they were made for each other. I'd put money on it that she is pregnant within a few months and then she is stuck with him like you were. Next year, she will be on Cafemom asking this same question and dealing with identical drama from him.

Don't let him use you, don't bring yourself to his level. That cool, calm and collectedness you used on him for that phone call? Keep doing it. It will get harder... especially when he is at his whits end trying to get a reaction from you. But in the end, you will come out so much stronger.

You'll meet a fantastic man, trust me. But you've got to give it time. In the mean time... work on YOU and be what you and your child needs right now. 

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by on May. 15, 2012 at 8:09 AM
Sounds like a jerk!
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