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He does some of the stupidest things ever.

Posted by on May. 16, 2012 at 8:16 AM
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So me and my maybe not fiancee now had a little fight.. At the end of that bit he went for a shower then i had one after. 

I come back in the room after I got all dressed and get on the computer and something tells me to check the browser history so I did. Lets say that ended with me smacking him in the face because it said he went to a porn site. 

I asked him about it and at first he denied it now hes making up lies saying that he did it to make me mad and to see me over react.

Not sure what to believe either way it does not make it right... Or is it just me.  Now he expects me to forgive him and I am not sure I want to.  Not sure what to say.. I just feel like he was looking at porn and is trying to make an excuse and another part of me is getting more mad that if he did it to make me mad its just so stupid ahhh just venting not sure what to think.

What would you do? 

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sarahlaine1123
by on May. 16, 2012 at 8:40 AM

But apparently I am being ridiculous. Yeah everythings my fault here right.. Don't do things if you cant handle the consiquenses. 

lilfishbigocean
by on May. 16, 2012 at 8:51 AM

 It's your pregnancy hormones, over reacting.. :) It's okay, it's normal. It's just porn - he wasn't actually screwing some chick! I mean, unless you guys have a "no porn" policy, then I wouldn't worry about it.

sarahlaine1123
by on May. 16, 2012 at 9:29 AM

We do have a no porn agreement... or DID. I think he is stupid. Sorry no one else can seem to agree. You don't piss someone you love off on purpose and you don't go against an agreement. 

Quoting lilfishbigocean:

 It's your pregnancy hormones, over reacting.. :) It's okay, it's normal. It's just porn - he wasn't actually screwing some chick! I mean, unless you guys have a "no porn" policy, then I wouldn't worry about it.


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nicole6870
by on May. 16, 2012 at 9:32 AM
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If you have a problem with Porn he should respect it. I'd be livid. Don't buy the bs of I just did it to make you mad. He wouldn't have lied about it if he was doing it to make you mad plus wth good would that do?
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ShesALady
by on May. 16, 2012 at 9:37 AM
Wow you have no right to hit him first off. Just like he has no right to smack you in the face. If you have a problem with porn and he already knows that then it should be discussed maturely. I personally don't see anything wrong with porn.
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vwd_johnson
by on May. 16, 2012 at 9:39 AM
Porn is no go in my house, so id be pissed too. And if he did it on purpose to make you mad (which I think is an excuse but..) that's disrespectful. He should appologize, and then u two should move on from the fight. Not worth it to continue argueing
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LadyStork
by on May. 16, 2012 at 9:40 AM
I'm having this issue in my marriage right now. Porn is a deal breaker for me. Dh had told me he stopped but I found out a few days ago he was still looking at it. If we were engaged I would end it. But since we are married I have no choice but to deal with it. My point is, if this is a problem for you, end it now.
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shadow_lark
by Silver Member on May. 16, 2012 at 9:41 AM
Forgive him and move on....try talking to him like a reasonable adult and come to some agreement about this. Tbh, it sounds like you both have some growing up to do.
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by Marianne on May. 16, 2012 at 9:44 AM

If he knew how you felt about porn before doing it, it was disrespectful - well, it's disrespectful anyway, but moreso if he knows how you feel about it. Chances are, he was just trying to get a reaction out of you, but whether he was or was actually looking at it is beside the point. If it's really bothering you, I would sit down and talk to him about it. You already know how he'll react if you let him feel accused of anything, so don't let him feel that way. Instead, keep the conversation about you and your problems. Let him know how you feel about it and ask him for his help in recovering. Hopefully that will help. Good luck

jenn75
by Bronze Member on May. 16, 2012 at 9:45 AM
If someone who loved me was gonna slap me across the face for something, I'd lie too!
If he smacked you for doing something he didnt like everyone would be all upset!
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