I have been married now for 6 years together with my husband for 10, but I am feeling more and more alone! We have 3 sons ages 7,4, and 1. I am a SAHM and he works days the typical 8 to 5 shift at an office downtown doing IT support. We are struggling to make ends meet and have been discussing how to incorperate another job into the mix. He pushes me to work nights and leave him with the kids, but truth is when he comes home now days I cannot pry him away from that dam video game controller to save my life! From the moment he walks in the door he eats and goes straight to the couch where he remains until he falls asleep. He ignors the fact that I cook and clean up dinner, bath the kids, do homework with my oldest, read bedtime stories, soothe the fussy 1 year old cutting teeth etc! How can I trust him with the boys if he acts like the kids and I dont exist?!? I encourage him to job search and work nights because taking care of 3 boys full time on my own isnt easy and I am exhausted by the evening and there is still plenty to do! However he is SUPER un motivated to Help me or hold down any other job! He cant even refresh his resume or apply for jobs!!!I am sooo frustrated!! Not to mention over the past few weeks all he can say to me is that I wanted the kids, now they are my job! He tells me he brings home the pay check and I take care of the kids and its fair! I dont remember signing up to be a married single parent :( He is unenthusiastic about anything that involves his kids, acts like it will half kill him to lift a finger to participate and I am FED UP!!!! What do I do??? I already tried leaving him, he didnt come running back.....I love him so I came back.....and now I remember the same miserable reasons I wanted to leave! He is a gaming couch potato with no love and affection to give me or his kids! Its all about him 24/7. Even while money is hard to come by, he is eating lavish meals with co workers, and sometimes at night we make meals and I put my kids first they eat before I do and if they eat it all I go without. He comes home and just dives into whatever I made and scarfs it down plus cleans the kids plates when they are done, I stand there thinking he will notice his wife didnt get dinner....he says looks like cold cereal for you......how kind....NOT!