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relationship tips for women

Posted by on May. 21, 2012 at 2:50 PM
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1) If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
2) If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay....

3) Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
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4) Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from ...heartache
5) Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant to be.

6) Slower is better.

7) Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.

8) If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve, then heck no, you can't 'be friends.' A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.

9) Don't settle. If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.

10) Don't stay because you think 'it will get better.' You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.

11) The only person you can control in a relationship is you.

12) Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women. He didn't take responsibility when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently?

13) Always have your own set of friends separate from his.

14) Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you; if something bothers you, speak up.

15) Be aware that healthy relationships are built on trust, and that trust takes time to develop. It may be unwise to share too much of yourself and about yourself too quickly. (See 6 above)

16) You cannot change anyone else's behavior. Change comes from within.

17) Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are, even if he has more education or a better job. And don't ever make him feel less important than you are either.

18) Do not make him into a quasi-god; he's a man, nothing more, nothing less.

19) Never let a man define who you are.

20) A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.

21) All men are NOT dogs.

22) You should not be the one doing all the bending...compromise is a two-way street.

23) You need time to heal between relationships...there's nothing useful about baggage... deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship.

24) You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you...a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals...look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.

25) Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.

26) Allow him to miss you sometimes...if a man always know where you are all the time, and you're always readily available to him - he may take you for granted... remember that you have your own life to live which may not always include him.

27) Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't listen to you and try to meet your needs.
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findingserenity
by Bronze Member on May. 21, 2012 at 4:20 PM
Nobody agreed?
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smurfbitebug
by on May. 21, 2012 at 4:23 PM
I think two things should be added.

NOT dating and just living your life how you want to is funner.
And every woman should live on their own after they've lived with their parents and BEFORE they move in with any man... or anyone else.
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manamott
by on May. 21, 2012 at 4:27 PM
I have a friend that needs to see this.
I agree
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AnGLInterrupted
by Kendall on May. 21, 2012 at 4:35 PM

I agree.  Great advice.  :)

findingserenity
by Bronze Member on May. 21, 2012 at 4:36 PM
Share it asap!


Quoting manamott:

I have a friend that needs to see this.

I agree

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CrazyLife1996
by on May. 21, 2012 at 4:47 PM
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Two more things to add

If he doesn't have a job. Step back and wait to see if he is even going to try and work.

If he doesn't have a car. Find out why.

If he doesn't have either RUN and don't look back
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chloesmommy777
by on May. 21, 2012 at 11:35 PM

Yep! ;)

jennrn79
by on May. 22, 2012 at 12:03 AM
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I agree with one to add...Never keep a man in your life because you think you NEED him there, only keep him there because you WANT him there
DemocraticMama
by on May. 22, 2012 at 12:10 AM

LOVE THIS!!!

Wife, Mother, Progressive Christian

    

ginnyk87
by Member on May. 22, 2012 at 12:19 AM
I agree.

One thing that needs to be added is a relationship or marriage is 50/50, not 80/20, 90/10 or 70/30. If you are the one working at it more than your partner is than maybe you need to reconsider things.

Another thing is, men do not change! If you don't like the way things are going don't expect them to change because they don't!!
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