I have a question, I have been married for 9 years and all throughout time people randomly will ask "is there something wrong with your husband" "does he have a disorder" "is he ADD" "is he autistic" and I end up falling into trying to make him act different so that people will stop saying that stuff.
Most of the time I dont tell him what people are saying but when he starts acting stupid ( I HATE that I think that and I am sorry but its the only way I can describe it) (examp. brings up topics that no one cares about and is wayyyyy off subject and you can see my friends just looking at him with these clueless looks) I try to cover for him and say things like ohh I know what you mean but I dont or ill brush him off and be a jerk and say something like "aaron... noone knows what your talking about or they dont care about that.
I need to find a way to help him without being a jerk! He is SUCH a good dad and husband and he deserves for people to respect him but I have a hard time myslef :(
SO I decided to read my 12 yr olds text messages and one said " Does your dad have a disorder? my mom thinks he is autistic or has a disorder" My daughter replied NO he is just silly. I mean what do I do? He deserves for his kids to be proud of him! He works, cleans and is the BEST at loving his family!
He has never been tested and I am starting to think it would be a good idea? is there anyone here that knows how to deal with this? I just want him to be able to have conversations like normal. :( Why do I get so embarrased? There is so much more that I have in my mind but just do not know how to say it out loud to people and especially my husband without hurting him.