Feeling really threatened right now...old girl "friend" back in in the picture. How would you feel?

[LveMy2K1dS]

I met my SO through a mutual friend, she had been friends with him since 6th grade, They never dated or anything like that. I had been friends with her only a few years. Well long story short, a couple years into our relationship, found out they had been flirting by text. She is with her longtime boyfriend, and claimed it was all my SO. My SO even had a picture on his phone of her that he took from her fb, when I asked why he said his friends at work saw her in a pic he showed them of me and her and wanted to see a better pic. Right. Well this was 3 years ago, we had a falling out, didn't speak for a year then we saw her at a party, her and I made up and became friends on fb. Another year goes by and her and SO still haven't talked to my knowledge. Yesterday out of the blue she friends him fb. Now I feel really insecure and afraid things are going to happen again. All was fine in the world until this. I know it seems petty but can't stand the fact that my SO might be flirting with her again. I asked him about it, he said its not a big deal they were friends forever, maybe she just got tired of bs. But idk, seems weird. Guess I will have to wait and see how they act. I am seriously feeling threatened though. Am I right to feel this way? How would you feel if it was your SO/DH?

[LatashaNicole]

Amen!

Quoting Beautiful31mom:

I would not care, I do not feel threatened by anyone I trust my husband 100%, I know he will not cheat. 

And what happened in the past is just that in the past. 

[nangel4u]

Quoting CowgirlMama0508:

Same thing happened to a friend of mine. Tell him delete her off fb. If he doesn't, you'll know where you stand. If yalls relationship means anything to him, he will delete her. Gl mama

[jgonzalez327]

Same thing happened to me. My husband had a friend that was a girl that he had know for quite some time. Well when he and I were engaged, I found a fb email exchange between him and this girl and they were supposedly joking about sending each other naked pictures of themselves. I kept it to myself for awhile u til I saw text messages on his phone from another girl that he met on MySpace. I flipped out and by this time we were married, we had our marriage blessed I the catholic church, I threatened to leave him. He stopped talking to the girls, deleted his fb too. But one day his "naked pic" friend emailed him and asked what happened to his fb. He threw me under the bus and said it was bc of the email and bc I didn't like all the females he talked to in fb. That was another blow up. This was last summer and I still have a hard time trusting him but we have two daughters together so I am working to make it work. Just trusting anybody is very hard for me

[1STEELERfan]

What does he say when you talk with him?

[Camsmommy12]

Okay for starters I have fought with myself for a long time over being jealous... my ex put my trust through HELL.. I have a wonderful DH now, and it's hard to just let things be normal and not questions, or feeling insecure etc... I had to kick it out of me~~~ it was hard, and still hard to this day.. but .. everytime I think of him doing something (not that he would) but I think to myself it's out of my control!! If he wanted to talk, text, or be with another women.. then let it happen, and obviously he's a POS and doesn't deserve me and our son!! We are all HUMAN men and women equally have power of choices... so if he does talk to her, flirt with her, call, text her.. etc obviously he has NO respect for you and he doesn't deserve you ... if he did it before and you find him doing it again .. i say get outta there!! Hope all is well with you guys :) if you ever wanna chat request me ;) keep us updated love

[snakesNsnails]

oh I'd be mad..but im the very jealous type..dh doesnt even have fb because he knows all the cr*p it could start.

[Serenity7]

 All that matters is how your boyfriend fells. If they are just friends. In a relationship you need to learn how to trust each other

[Littlered09]

i know exactly how you feel for real its scary how similar our stories are.....my dh had a gf and they were together on and off for years and i was inbetween one of those times but anyways we got together and were together for a while and than got married well it took me a while to get him to stop talking to her and he took her off fb. well that was a year or so ago maybe longer but than a couple weeks ago she friend him on fb again and he accepted and told me about it but shes one of those girls that i feel threatened by because hes still friends with her parents and still goes and sees them but now she lives back with her parents and i told him if he ever went over there without me i would leave him or freak out so he dont go over there without me anymore but in the back of my head i always wonder if something is gonna happen between them again or if they are talking again.

[JeanNJ2114]

 Greetings - Let's just say this, I married my best friend.  Yes, he had another girlfriend and I had a boyfriend when we were younger and we always kept in touch.  I guess doing the exact same thing.  Look at us today!  Don't mean to make you feel worse about what is going on, but do look out for the possibilities. 

[ShannaBee]

It is natural to feel threatened. I get a jealous streak every now and then too. But I just put my faith and trust in him. He married me, not the ones who make me insecure.