I dont believe it could my marriage with my ex most definately didnt last because of that!! Once you lose that trust you have NOTHING!!!
I believe that our marriage can survive infidelity. However, there are two kinds of indidelity in my book. There is the I am not satsified in this marriage(these can be physiscal or emotional needs) So i am going to look elsewhere to get my needs met. Then there is the I have a whole another family halfway across the country type infididelity. The later I could not tolerate and I would be gone.
However, DH is a musician and has been one since middle school. He is one of those men who are so sexy but, still don't really know it yet(Even at 24 he still doesnt quite see it yet lol). He appears and is a lot of ways is the vulnerable type. So I have been fighting bitches since we were 13. I was told by a lot the wives/girlfriends of other musicians to expect infidelity. That as longs as he came to you there wasn't any problem. So I have always been in the mindset if he was to slip up once or twice I could forgive him.
However, Greg has never cheated. He goes out of his way to Sype as soon as he gets done a show eventhough he could easily be partying with his bandmates. He is a rare gem and I don't think I can ever let him go.
I am not sure. I love him so much, I'd like to think I would try to work it out. But I might not, it just depends.
No because I know I will never trust him again much less be able to look at him the same ever again.
Easy to say YES, you can forgive, forget, let go of the past and start all over again. It is also easy to say NO way, once a cheat always a cheat!
My husband once had an affair He didn't acknowledge it, didn't say anything. I just knew. Believe me it hurt, literally. It was like your heart was crushed and you cannot breathe..He never said a word and I don't think he ever will.
We are still happily married. I am secured with the fact that, honest to goodness, I know he loves me. I just didn't know what happened and I don't want to know anymore.
We had some problems with dh on his phone talking to other women and looking at a lot of porn last year. I still don't trust him with his phone and am very self conscious because it.
To be honest, I just don't know. I don't think you CAN know until you are in that situation. I mean, we have 9 years invested and three kids..do you walk away over a one night fuck up? I don't know...but if he had an ongoing, loving relationship with a woman I know that would be hard for me. I just hope to god it never comes up. I'm not going to say "oh my man would never"...becauseyou just never know.
You know , but does your partner?
- 2lilmamas
on Jun. 4, 2012 at 10:43 PM