I know this may sound terrible but I am tired of my life as it is now. I dont feel any love for my husband anymore. I love my stepkids but I dont really feel that connection with them anymore. We have been together for 7 years and married for 4 of those years. We have no fun anymore, all I do is stay home while my husband works. I dont want to have sex with him anymore or any kind of affection with him. Is see friends posting on FB and talking about out riding boats, fishing, doing other things that I have interest in doing and that i like to do year ago. I am sad I dont get to do these things. Sometimes it feels like we are just friends living together. I am confused about this whole thing. He isnt a talker about these things. I think maybe if i wasnt married and tied down I wouldnt be so sad and lonely and i would actually enjoy my life again. Anyone else ever felt like this? I just need someone to talk to and get advice. Thanks ladies.
You sound depressed and maybe it has more to do with you than with them per se. Change what you can in your life and accept what you cannot. If you arent having fun anymore then go out and have fun, but why cant you do that with your family?
Women are very good at knowing what they need and very bad about expressing it to others. I've been married for 19 years now, and I have felt the way you described a few times..........silently. I finally learned that I need to tell my husband what it is I need. I need to say "I want to have coffee"~or "I need a break from the kids." We're nurturers so we think it's selfish to speak up and say what we need, but it isn't-so speak up ladies!
yep, i am the same way, sit at home with the new baby and four year old. joy.
Quoting LoveMyDaisy:
I feel the exact same way right now. ( in addition to dh working all week while I only talk to an infant, he has been going out and shooting pool with friends til 3 am) I think everyone who has been married or has "settled down" with someone has felt this way and if they say they haven't they are lying. I dont have any great advice for you Im sorry, I need some myself.
Couples therapy is a great way to learn how to communicate more effectively. I highly recommend it to anyone.
Quoting Desertgirl777:Women are very good at knowing what they need and very bad about expressing it to others. I've been married for 19 years now, and I have felt the way you described a few times..........silently. I finally learned that I need to tell my husband what it is I need. I need to say "I want to have coffee"~or "I need a break from the kids." We're nurturers so we think it's selfish to speak up and say what we need, but it isn't-so speak up ladies!
I hope you feel better soon OP.
not sure why it is bothering me but
- tgeary
on Jun. 7, 2012 at 11:44 PM