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When my husband is online....

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He puts it on private browsing (he thinks I don't know this but he does) but then when I use the computer, all of his history is gone but he tells me that the websites he goes on don't show a history when he goes on them...wtf???? I don't know what to think, he lies about the stupidest things.....I'm lost, should I trust anything he says? And he also has emails from some bootycallonline site but he says he doesn't use it anymore and said that he had that account before he met me.....

UPDATE: I checked the cookies and lots of porn websites came up and a few online dating websites??? I really dont wanna be married to someone like this trying to find other women online....

by on Jun. 11, 2012 at 7:55 PM
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sparklebug86
by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 12:40 PM

call him out then

claudiaf17
by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 1:37 PM

dating websites??? sorry to hear that. For me no one in a commited relationship should be on a dating website. If we wasnt doing anything bad he would be deleting any thing. I understand men like to look and girls and stuff thats just normal . I think you need to bring it up and talk about it. you need to lwt him know thats not ok with you. how long have you guys been married? any problems lately?

 

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MomToovey
by Marianne on Jun. 12, 2012 at 2:28 PM

 DH and I do inprivate browsing all the time - but it's usually because we're shopping online for each other. If I found out he were on dating sites, there'd be a big problem. I'm sorry momma. Good luck

Serenity7
by Platinum Member on Jun. 12, 2012 at 2:43 PM
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 ((((((((((((Hugs)))))))))))

Metteba
by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 3:33 PM

My EX husband used to do this too.  I never said a word, but when he was at home, I would get on the computer and do the same thing.  I never hid nothing, I knew he talked to other women, and I talked to other men and that pretty much hurt his little feelers.  But that didnt stop him and me either...lol. 

blondieof3kids
by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 5:19 PM

alot of women customers would stop in the computer repair shop where I use to work and 99% of the complaints were finding porn websites in the history file and of course their hubbies had no idea how they got there because they NEVER go on those sites, anyways, I would guide them along on how to "block" the websites, have to stay one step ahead of them you know!!!

ESER
by on Jun. 12, 2012 at 5:43 PM

 I am so sorry that is just shady and dirty. I hope you find the strength you need to do what is right for you.

EmilysMom2010
by Bronze Member on Jun. 12, 2012 at 5:48 PM
I used to play dumb and act like I didn't know anything about computers. He knows better now. Lol I have had the same laptop for years. Clean as a whistle. And that's not because nothing gets searched. You just have to do it safely. In private is best when browsing porn. But if he is doing it to cover his tracks than that is a problem. I have never "caught"my husband in private browsing. But he knows better than to use my laptop for his "personal business" that's what phones are for. Haha well. His phone.
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Jenniferb34d
by on Jun. 13, 2012 at 2:24 AM
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I'm in the same position. Been in it for 7 years now. This last time I found some really horrifying stuff in a crash report that he failed to delete. So I removed google Chrome since it leaves ZERO traces behind and set his desktop pic of the screenshot that was in the report.  I decided it is time to work on me. I started to get a tan, I'm losing weight, finished my first semester of college(after being out of school over 20 years) and just doing things for myself to feel good about me. The porn (not age apropriate for a 41 yr old man!), phone sex #'s, everything is just fuel for the fire to me. It is driving me to be a better person while he stays the same lying, childish, porn addict he is. The revenge is growing as a person and maybe out growing him in the end. I also decided to act like him...I went and bought a few playgirl magazines...but I won't hide nor lie about mine. Just seeing the hurt look in his eyes and the "it doesn't bother me" facade crumble...well worth the few dollars I spent.

angusb3ar
by on Jun. 13, 2012 at 3:13 AM
It like when your search for a file in your computer but don't remember where it is at...


Quoting nangel4u:

I have no idea how to do that...he has a macbook pro and im lost when it comes to these computers ....i think ill have to look it up


Quoting angusb3ar:

Go to the computer settings and search whatever you think it was it will pop up..



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