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I'm new to this site .. But porn?

Posted by on Jun. 11, 2012 at 10:56 PM
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My darling, darling SO apparently likes porn. I pretty much gave him the go-ahead to look at it while we were living apart. Now, we live together, and he's fool enough to leave his iPod (only means for this kind of search) open to his latest search. That being gay porn. I again, have no problem with porn. But he never watches it with me, and has never told me he was looking. Now I'm concerned. Should I be?
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MrsJHoward
by on Jun. 11, 2012 at 10:58 PM
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Idk, I think it's pretty normal. My DH didn't watch it with me either till I told I would like us to. He thought I didn't enjoy it. Don't know what to say about the gay porn, maybe he was just curious, guys are weird.
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3ladybugsmom
by on Jun. 11, 2012 at 10:58 PM
Maybe about the gay part but porn isn't that big of a deal to me. Maybe you should surprise him by turning it on he next time you get freaky and see what he says/does.
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littletoots1990
by on Jun. 11, 2012 at 10:58 PM
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umm. i know my hubs watched porn&ive been on the site he goes,which i enjoy. but hes never looked at gay porn. id be worried if he did... ask him.
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dani0007
by on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:00 PM
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Yes this is something that you guys need to discuss like now calmly and respectfully . be sure your on the same page.

raegan1221
by Silver Member on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:01 PM
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 Hmm, I wouldn't worry about the porn part. SO and I've actually watched it together and I don't mind if he does. But now the gay porn is whole other deal...I'd be concerned about that.

mom2oliandemi
by on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:01 PM
He's a cop. Big macho guy. His daughter (20) just came to live with us. She asked him if he was gay because he "takes care of his cuticles." more intuitive than I thought. Now I'm like - wtf? He can't ever know I looked at his iPod history. We have a great sex life. Now I'm confused. Thanks ladies.
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MissElissa21
by on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:05 PM

hmmm. IDK, hubby watches porn, but I don't think it's gay porn. Even if it was, I wouldn't care. Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do lol. I hope you get some answers soon.

mom2oliandemi
by on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:10 PM
There's just so much going on that makes me feel insecure. The daughter moving in with us, his stance to "never get married again but I see is together at 90" and now this. Porn, eh, I don't care. Even gay porn, I guess. I've told him I watched lesbians on film. My concern is - hiding it and not talking about it.
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mom2oliandemi
by on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:16 PM
And just to (tmi) clarify. He lived for 16 years with a prude. I'm a little more vocal, expressive and adventurous. I don't with hold certain pleasures til his "birthday." He's - as he's said - never had a woman like me. I'm not all that. Just 42, in love, and rearing to go. He's 48, a little clumsy, but admittedly the best lover I've ever had. He says the same. I just don't get the porn, or the 35 saved photos.
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dani0007
by on Jun. 11, 2012 at 11:20 PM

He may be ashamed since its gay porn and alot of guys thinks that makes them less of a man and with him being a leo (mine is too) thats even bigger cuz hes got a mans man job. I wish you luck talking to him and just remember this might not be a closet gay thing this could be an afraid youll think less of him thing. If he calls you chuck during lovemaking then id worry lol. HMMMM..... why not get a dvd that has a little of everything and make a surprise for him when he sees you dont mind that might be the ice breaker you need to start that conversation. Good luck Beautiful!!!!

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