Ok, so I might ramble a little and mispell some words, I've had a couple glasses of wine... Ok, back to topic! SO.... my husband has an affiar a year ago in July. I have tried WHOLEHEARTEDLY to forgive, but not forget. Well, he continues to lie about small things and STILL has the demeaner of, I will do what I want, if I know I wont get caught. Thats the problem, I have caught him in lies as a result. I have finally realized, he's not gonna change and he admitted to not being happy with me, (talk about depressing). I've been fully in love and commited to this man for nealry 9 years and my heart is shattered. We share two amazing boys, a house, and a few pets. His mom and I had an amazing conversation today and even she doesn't understand why I am still with him. Ok... so I attemped to leave him 2 days ago and he froze both my cards and will only give me small amounts of cash.... I feel trapped, I love him, but hate him at the same time. I fear he might try to take my kids if he can. I need to hire a good lawyer! Thanks very reading!
I am so sorry. I caught my husband sexting his secretary in February and he did not fire her. I catchhim in lies all the time. I also feel trapped because of financial concerns. I went to a therapist and she told me to sit down with lawyers to see what my options are. I think that in most states you are entitled to half of what he made while he was with you and other support. He cannot take the kids away from you, especially if he cheated on you. Don't worry. I know that it's hard because you want him to change and wake up to the beautiful family that he has. But if that doesn't happen, it is not fair to torture yourself waiting. You can find a new and better life. Good luck.
All are joint. Exxpet savings, he went to different bank, I'm pretty sure im not on savings... He froze to prevent me from leaving. i'm starting to figure out he's trying to control me with money. However, i can go get money since I'm on the account. He just doesn't think i will try.
Quoting AshleyGaddis:
Im sorry! Are you on the bank accounts or just have cards?
i don't have much for family... But I have amazing friends to help me.
Quoting USMCwife0530:
Do you have family that can help you out? At least until you can stand on your own two feet. His mom, for instance. You said she even wondered why you're still with him. There's no way he could take your boys away unless he can prove you're an unfit mother.
Quoting nicci260:All are joint. Exxpet savings, he went to different bank, I'm pretty sure im not on savings... He froze to prevent me from leaving. i'm starting to figure out he's trying to control me with money. However, i can go get money since I'm on the account. He just doesn't think i will try.
Quoting AshleyGaddis:
Im sorry! Are you on the bank accounts or just have cards?
do u like kissing still?
- nicci260
on Jun. 16, 2012 at 3:34 AM