My husband feels NO responsibility for using birth control! EDIT added

[calusari]

I am 42, we have six kids, and yet I constantly have to "make" him put on a condom. I don't take the pill because it makes me sick, he has talked about getting a vasectomy over the years but has never actually put forth any effort to make it happen, and when I talked about getting my tubes tied, he said that I shouldn't because it was major surgery.

I am so tired of being the only adult in this relationship sometimes!

EDIT: For everyone who says I should just schedule the vasectomy for him, he says that he has to be at a certain weight before he will do it, or he'll have to be put under (which he doesn't want to do).

           For everyone who says that I should take care of the birth control method myself, you're missing the point...why should everything be my responsibility? I am serious when I say that I am responsible for almost everything that goes on in our house, our lives. Expecting him to take on the simple chore of using a condom is very little to ask.

[xxMocahFrappxx]

I have a 10 year one. When it comes to being physical, its both persons responsibility because if you get pregnant, it took two to tango. Either stop having sex with him or ...

Quoting MrS.GiFFord:

What about an IUD?

[steelcrazy]

Here is how it is, plain and simple.  You are either part of the solution or part of the problem and you need to decide which you want to be.  

[Momof5kids84]

Sometimes things are just the way they are, and you have to deal with it. It sounds like it has been this way for years. You aren't going to change him now. Take it upon yourself to have your tubes tied or have the essure

[Momof5kids84]

Coils put in. Stupid friggin phone.

[barnyardmum]

I agree!! We have 3 kids (I have 4 including my partner!!). For us it's not so much about the birth control - he is happy to wear a condom but I find they ruin the experience for me (a whole other topic!!) but why are so many men so immature & irresponsible when it comes to the household? My partner is great at pointing out the problem but doesn't come up with a solution & when he gets it wrong it's the old "I'm just a Dad...". He is a great provider but misses the point that I need to be more than a mother/housekeeper & that I need his support to enable me to do work outside the home.